Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[Guest]

Hi Bones

Letter 1, agree with response.
Letter 2, agree with response but: "I hate her plans." - hate is a rather strong word to use isn't it? It sounds to me as though she's lucky to be invited to her daughter's wedding. She wants to back out of paying because she's not getting what she wants? Give me a break!

[BonesMS]

Hi Bones

Letter 1, agree with response.
Letter 2, agree with response but: "I hate her plans." - hate is a rather strong word to use isn't it? It sounds to me as though she's lucky to be invited to her daughter's wedding. She wants to back out of paying because she's not getting what she wants? Give me a break!

Thanks, Guest.

I also agree with the response to letter 1.  I LOVE the idea of sending that cheating jerk a text message telling him "It's Over"!  Poetic justice!

With letter 2, I get the feeling that this mother is an N who wants to dictate every minutiae of her daughter's life and is pissed off because her daughter DARES to be an individual with her own wants and needs.

Bones

[Guest]

Pretty much Bones. I also think she wants the wedding at her church etc so that she gets to be a centre of attention. I guess her daughter is wise to this!

[BonesMS]

Pretty much Bones. I also think she wants the wedding at her church etc so that she gets to be a centre of attention. I guess her daughter is wise to this!

That's the feeling I'm getting!   

[BonesMS]

This letter appeared in "Dear Abby" this morning.  I really identify with this poor daughter-in-law!  I also feel sorry for her husband because he has such a mother!!!


"DEAR ABBY: I'm one of those daughters-in-law who are "unkind" and "ignore" their mothers-in-law. I'm
shocked you didn't ask that mother-in-law who wrote you about her daughter-in-law (Feb. 6) why it was happening.

In my case it's because she belittles me, is rude and finds fault with everything I do. An actual complaint she made was that I didn't make enough eye contact with her during a family party. Abby, there were 10 other guests and she was across the room.

When I speak to my mother-in-law, she constantly reinterprets what I say, giving my words her own meaning; then she becomes offended by the meaning she assigned, not what I said. I am her son's wife; I am not a doormat. I'm the mother of her grandkids, and it's not my responsibility to fulfill her emotional need to feel important.

A healthy relationship is a two-way street, whether it's between spouses, parents and children or daughters-in-law with their mothers-in-law. -- DISGUSTED DAUGHTER-IN-LAW

DEAR DISGUSTED: There are often two sides to every story, and I'm sorry your relationship with your mother-in-law is such a poor one. Thank you for writing and sharing the other side."

[BonesMS]

I swear to God, I am so SICK of N's!!!   

I went to the bank, nearby, a little while ago.  The parking there is extremely tight and there is a "ONE WAY" sign prominently displayed.  As I'm pulling into the driveway of the bank, looking for an open parking space, a car flew in from the opposite direction, ignoring the ONE WAY sign and driving the WRONG WAY!  She nearly slammed into me, head on, and I pointed to the ONE WAY sign.  (I looked for the license plate on the front of her car and noticed it was MISSING!  That is illegal in my state.)

When I walked up to the door of the bank, after I parked my car, the individual who had nearly crashed my car deliberately SLAMMED the door into my hand and started screaming at me:  "You better get the F*** out of MY way and get your rusty piece of SH** (meaning my car) out of MY way!"

I looked her straight in the eye and responded:

"F*** YOU, B*TCH!"  She backed off and went to her car.

I tried to look at the back of her vehicle to get the license plate but couldn't get a tag.

How much you want to bet she's a scofflaw in other areas?  I hope the cops get her lead a$$!   

Bones

[Guest]

Well done Bones! I just learned what a ' scofflaw' is too - nice word, does what it says.

about:

An actual complaint she made was that I didn't make enough eye contact with her during a family party.

  Hell's teeth!

[BonesMS]

Well done Bones! I just learned what a ' scofflaw' is too - nice word, does what it says.

about:

An actual complaint she made was that I didn't make enough eye contact with her during a family party.

  Hell's teeth!

Thanks, Guest!

Given the way these N's behave, I am SORELY tempted to B*tch-slap ALL of them!!!!!

Bones

[sKePTiKal]

$10 says your nasty road rage woman is also overdrawn on her bank account by large amounts....

[BonesMS]

$10 says your nasty road rage woman is also overdrawn on her bank account by large amounts....

I wouldn't be surprised.  She wasn't in the bank long enough to either stand in line or use the ATM.  Makes me wonder what kind of acting out she did toward the bank employees.....

Bones

[BonesMS]

I really feel sorry for the bride-to-be and groom-to-be in the second letter!  GEEZ!!!!!   

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20110316

[BonesMS]

Getting ready to go back to the dentist this morning to have the implant procedure started.

[Hopalong]

Good for you, Bones.
I hope the implant is well done and a great success.

Hops

[BonesMS]

Good for you, Bones.
I hope the implant is well done and a great success.

Hops

Well, when I got to the dentist's office, they took another X-ray and determined that the supporting bone has not filled in enough, yet, to support the implant.  The procedure has been postponed to next month to give my jaw additional time to heal.  If the dentist likes what the future X-ray reveals, then the implant can proceed.  Otherwise, I'll need to wait until the bone is ready to receive it.  Oh well......

Bones

[teartracks]

Oh Bones,

It'll be worth the wait.  The implants I have are better than my natural teeth!   Patience!

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