Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

I communicated with her son to get as much updates as possible.  As strange as it may be, I do care about her health and well-being given that she just turned 84 the other day.  During my communication with the son, he had me cracking up laughing!

We talked about the mixed feelings we both have about her being alone where she is while he and I live several states away, several hours by plane-travel.  He commented that she is impossible to live with due to her head-strong ideas, being stubborn, and bad temper flares from her whenever anyone disagrees with her.  (Sound familiar?????)  The next comment he said had me falling out of my chair laughing:  "If she would just get on good prescription meds and get mellow, I could consider having her live with us."   

Oh boy!!!! How well I understand THAT!!!!!!!

Bones

[BonesMS]

My Internet connection is fluctuating so I can't be certain how long I'll be able to stay online.

Read this in today's advice column:

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20110828

Bones

[BonesMS]

Taking things one day at a time.

[BonesMS]

Just got home from a dentist's appointment and I am thoroughly fed-up and disgusted with the office staff that simply WILL NOT LISTEN!!!!  They informed me that they don't want to deal with my dental insurance anymore, (that I'm paying for out of pocket), and wanted me to come up with $400.00 immediately!!!  I told them, I DON'T HAVE THAT!  I am a RETIREE on a FIXED PENSION!  Their response?  "Well, give us $200 NOW!"  What part of RETIREE do they NOT understand?!?!?  I had to repeat...AGAIN....I AM A RETIREE ON A FIXED PENSION!  I CANNOT GIVE YOU WHAT I DO NOT HAVE!!!  "Their response?  "We will CANCEL your next appointment if you don't give us this amount of money NOW!"  I told them, FINE!!!  CANCEL IT!!! 

I left!

I'm SO SICK OF THIS CRAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  F***ing A$$hole$!!!!!

[BonesMS]

 

[Guest]

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[BonesMS]

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Thanks, Freshwater.

Now I have to go to the doctor, this morning, so I can get prescriptions refilled.  I am NOT looking forward to that because I'm tired of dealing with the front office staff that are virtually a bunch of teenagers who have NO clue what Work Ethic/Customer Relations mean!   

They screwed up the last appointment I was supposed to have and wanted to reschedule it in the MIDDLE of the Christmas Crazies!!!!  I told them "NO" and I would be back when I was ready!  I half-way expect the doctor to scold me as if I'm a disobedient child and I'm ready to remind him that I'm prepared to sever all ties with this doctor's practice and find another doctor closer to where I live.  (I've been going to this particular family practice's office for over 30 years until my original physician had to retire when she contracted Multiple Sclerosis.)  These doctors seem to forget that their patients are actually their EMPLOYERS!  Without patients, they wouldn't have a job!  Treat an adult patient like a child or a piece of property and I walk!  I'm done with nonsense!

[BonesMS]

The good news:  the appointment went better than I expected and I watched the doctor e-mail my prescriptions to the pharmacy near my home.  I need to schedule another bone scan before my next appointment in November, which would include a physical, (not so much fun).

The bad news:  I get to the pharmacy where my refills had been e-mailed to and..........they have NO record of having ANYTHING for me!!!!  I had to haggle with them for several minutes just to get my Actonel as I'm scheduled to take it first thing tomorrow morning!   

This is NUTS!

[BonesMS]

Doing a lot of thinking this morning after finishing reading a book called "Thunder Dog", a first-person account of a survivor of 9/11.  The survivor happened to be blind due to prematurity.  He described the many different attitudes he has encountered during his lifetime, regarding his physical challenge.  Some of the attitudes of temporarily-abled-bodied people are laughable, some annoying, and others were down-right infuriating!  Reading about these different situations helped me put a finger on why the support group, I used to attend, finally plucked my last nerve.....the facilitator, a kid fresh out of graduate school with NO LIFE EXPERIENCE of living with a physical/mental challenge, NEVER really HEARD anything that was said and was VERY patronizing/condescending as if we were all children!  (We were all old enough to be her parents/grandparents!)  She is temporarily-abled-bodied so she has NO CLUE what it is like to be born with a physical/mental challenge e.g. Asperger's, blindness, Spina Bifida, brain damage, etc.

That kind of attitude just ANNOYS me!!!!   

[sKePTiKal]

Oh, but Bones... let your imagination run wild for a minute!

Imagine a novel about someone like that, who has an accident - or an undetected predisposition to something like MS... and then has to deal with it in their own life. Heck, I know! How about a series of short stories that shows the DIFFERENT ways people deal with it and their differing attitudes?

I don't think it would be rude for you, in those situations, to remind the clueless person that just because you have challenges, doesn't mean you're stupid. I remember a student of mine in a wheelchair - god forbid anyone would hold a door for him! Such a tongue lashing would be delivered about how he didn't need any help, the poor person would be left in shock. Hubs used to slide chairs in his way, to watch him dodge them - it was their game - and hubs usually lost.

Attitudes are becoming more "enlightened" - but you know there will always be people who live under rocks... or have their own "challenges" about thinking about what it would be like to be in someone else's shoes.

[BonesMS]

Oh, but Bones... let your imagination run wild for a minute!

Imagine a novel about someone like that, who has an accident - or an undetected predisposition to something like MS... and then has to deal with it in their own life. Heck, I know! How about a series of short stories that shows the DIFFERENT ways people deal with it and their differing attitudes?

I don't think it would be rude for you, in those situations, to remind the clueless person that just because you have challenges, doesn't mean you're stupid. I remember a student of mine in a wheelchair - god forbid anyone would hold a door for him! Such a tongue lashing would be delivered about how he didn't need any help, the poor person would be left in shock. Hubs used to slide chairs in his way, to watch him dodge them - it was their game - and hubs usually lost.

Attitudes are becoming more "enlightened" - but you know there will always be people who live under rocks... or have their own "challenges" about thinking about what it would be like to be in someone else's shoes.

Thanks, P.R.

It's the Idiots Under the Rocks that REALLY pluck my LAST nerve!  Especially when they don't care to listen and learn!

[Guest]

I know Bones. It's half of this and half of the other. I don't communicate all that well when I'm in meltdown (and who's to know that except me?) and we're allllllllllllllll only human. We're all, ahem, screwed up in some way I guess.

I've known plenty of professionals who couldn't do their job - doctors, lawyers, property surveyors - and I haven't mentioned bankers, investment advisors or fund managers! Nobody's perfect. Everyone can have their attention elsewhere, on whatever they think is important, you know? Shit happens.

[BonesMS]

Shit happens and, at the same time, discrimination is NOT cool!

[BonesMS]

Woke up at 2:30 in the morning and can't get back to sleep.

[sKePTiKal]

Man, that happened to me as Irene started rolling through (tornado & unknowns anxiety). It SUCKS. Are you able to take a nap? I usually can't sleep during the day... no matter how tired I am.