Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

My husband used to think like this, too.  He grew up pretty much like a weed.  Now that he is a parent himself, he sings a much different tune.  I think one of the commentators said something similar, and I have to agree.  If they are not divorced by the time the kid reaches his or her teens, I bet he will see things differently.

I would hope he would see things differently, if he has enough brain cells left to think with!

[BonesMS]

checking in.......

[BonesMS]

Today's "Dear Margo":

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/over-praising-children.html

I do NOT agree with Margo's advice to the last letter!

[BonesMS]

Wrestling with PTSD.........................

[Hopalong]

Cuppa chamomile and a virtual hug...

(((Bones))).

Sleep well, dream something warm.

xo
Hops

[BonesMS]

Cuppa chamomile and a virtual hug...

(((Bones))).

Sleep well, dream something warm.

xo
Hops

Thanks, (((((((((((((((((((Hops)))))))))))))))))))))))))))).

Every so often, flashbacks pop up out of nowhere.

[BonesMS]

This sounds painfully familiar:

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/cutting-ties-for-the-greater-good.html

Now that the N's are starting to attack the grandchildren, I think it's time to go NC!

[Redhead Erin]

Today's "Dear Margo":

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/over-praising-children.html

I do NOT agree with Margo's advice to the last letter!

Actually, I would have suggested the same thing---that the Dad take advantage of the time to help his son learn to drive.  Unless there is a fear that the mother is still drunk driving, I can't imagine what good would come of confronting her. 

What would you have suggested?

[BonesMS]

Today's "Dear Margo":

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/over-praising-children.html

I do NOT agree with Margo's advice to the last letter!

Actually, I would have suggested the same thing---that the Dad take advantage of the time to help his son learn to drive.  Unless there is a fear that the mother is still drunk driving, I can't imagine what good would come of confronting her. 

What would you have suggested?

Knowing what I know, I would have reported it while doing what I would have to do to protect my child.  Ignoring a drunk driver does NOT solve the problem!  Trust me on this!

[BonesMS]

Came across a book from Amazon.com:  "Personal Branding for Dummies".  I'm still in the process of reading it.

[BonesMS]

Today's "Annie's Mailbox":

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/follow-your-dreams-own-your-choices.html

The second letter sounds as if an N submitted it.....and the N is clearly a STUPID IDIOT!!!!!

[BonesMS]

One of the TV channels I am able to receive for free shows programming from way back when......McHale's Navy, Leave It To Beaver, The Monkees, Adam-12, Dragnet (1969-1970),.....last night I was watching an episode of Dragnet 1970 where two police officers were being investigated for grand theft, to the tune of $800.00, from a recently deceased man.  The investigation by Sgt. Joe Friday and Officer Bill Gannon was very meticulous and methodical.  As it turned out, a "friend" of the deceased was the person who had actually stolen the money and attempted to implicate these two police officers.  When she was confronted with the evidence of what she had done, she attempted to justify what she did because, in her own mind, she was ENTITLED.  No apologies, no guilt, no remorse. 

The first time I had seen this episode, years ago, there were many things I didn't understand.  This time, as I was watching it again, I realized that I was watching an N in action who finally got caught by the police!  The end of the episode stated that the two police officers were returned to duty with full pay, benefits, etc.  There was no word on what consequences the N received.

[Redhead Erin]

That's interesting.  I wonder how the writers came up with that conclusion---did they study psychology, did they know somebody like that, had they heard of something like that happening?

How is the personal branding book?  Sounds like something I might use for work. 

As for the drunk driver mother, it seems like it was on incident that happened a long time ago, not an ongoing problem.  If there was any concern that mother was STILL driving intoxicated, then by all means, CPS should have been called.  But that does not seem like tie case. Hell, when I was younger, I drove drunk a few times, too.  Sometimes it was sheer stupidity--spent my money , no cab fare, no one to call, no way to get back for my car in the morning, no other option and I didn't think about it until it was too late. 20 years later I know how to drink and it doesn't happen any more.  IF I had got caught then, it would have no bearing on my ability to drive now. Calling the woman's drivers licence into question might cost her her job and compromise her ability to raise her kids.  I would really let it be.

[BonesMS]

That's interesting.  I wonder how the writers came up with that conclusion---did they study psychology, did they know somebody like that, had they heard of something like that happening?

How is the personal branding book?  Sounds like something I might use for work. 

As for the drunk driver mother, it seems like it was on incident that happened a long time ago, not an ongoing problem.  If there was any concern that mother was STILL driving intoxicated, then by all means, CPS should have been called.  But that does not seem like tie case. Hell, when I was younger, I drove drunk a few times, too.  Sometimes it was sheer stupidity--spent my money , no cab fare, no one to call, no way to get back for my car in the morning, no other option and I didn't think about it until it was too late. 20 years later I know how to drink and it doesn't happen any more.  IF I had got caught then, it would have no bearing on my ability to drive now. Calling the woman's drivers licence into question might cost her her job and compromise her ability to raise her kids.  I would really let it be.

I vehemently disagree!!!!  I would have reported it to the DMV!

And since I'm getting pissed off, let's DROP THIS DISCUSSION!

[Redhead Erin]

Its OK to disagree.  It doesn't affect either one of us anyway.  Like my kid says, I was just sayin'.....Just offering an opinion.  It wasn't meant to be a personal stab against you, Bones, or anything else except a statement of opinion on a story in the news paper.