Happy Belated Birthday,Kelly.
My S( older) is a "bull in a china shop" around the house. A few weeks ago,I heard a huge crash. I just PRAYED that no one was hurt. He had pulled the glass door to the shower too hard and the entire thing shattered.
He has broken stoves, dishwashers, 'dogs"( it is a long story), blinds, sinks. His head is "you know where" . What cracks me up is that he is a manager at a restaurant and his boss always gets mad at him for leaving messes". He is so good at what he does and so dedicated that they deal with it.
However, he is the type of person who "leaves a trail" wherever he goes. (He might need to find his way back)
Kelly, you are coping with extreme stress very,very ,very well,IMO. I am very inspired by your handling of many difficult life situations. Love Ami