Setting the record straight about Ami

[Ami]

Janet
  Once you made your feelings clear that you didn't want me to contact you--WHY would I? I would never contact s/one who told me that they didn't WANT  me to.
  I have many people to talk to and certainly would not foist myself on s/one who found me offensive in any way. I am sorry that you are seeing things in a "false" way, Janet

[Ami]

Janet
  I am asking you to pull the thread b/c you are really humiliating me .IF you don't --then my worst fears have come true. I have been humiliated in front of everyone and I guess I will learn from that,too .
 

[Leah]

Janet
  I am asking you to pull the thread b/c you are really humiliating me .IF you don't --then my worst fears have come true. I have been humiliated in front of everyone and I guess I will learn from that,too .
 

With respect,

What about Janet?

[Ami]

Leah
  Then Janet can write about me as "friend" or' former friend" as I did to her Leah and not humiliate me in public---make sense Leah.? It is about not using names --like I didn't.Get it --Leah .It is about not humiliating s/one by name-

[Gabben]

Janet - Ami is asking you to pull the thread - are you going to respect her limits and feelings, or is she just an object to toy with ?

Lise

[Ami]

There is no abuse Leah. Janet said,"Don't Pm me. I  stopped. Where is the abuse?

[Leah]

The abuse had * already *  happened before you stopped PMing.

Oh, I * see * one is to keep quiet about the abuse and act as if nothing happened.

Now, that strikes a chord.


Hence, no genuine remorse, or apology, and no restoration.

That strikes another chord.


in light of all the wealth of information, insight and wisdom on this board.

[Gabben]

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With respect,

What about Janet?

With respect, what about Ami-

Does this punishment from Janet fit the alleged crime?

Lise

[BonesMS]

Maybe the PM feature should be dispensed with to avoid the possibility of abuse?

Bones

[Ami]

leah
 Janet and I had a friendship UNTIL she TOLD me NOT to PM her. Then ,I din't PM her anymore. You ,Leah, are  twisting the entire situation in a way that is totally false. Leah-- don't be a" bearer of tales"
  .

[Ami]

THIS is the simple story. Janet said yesterday--"-Don't PM me anymore." I stopped. Where is the abuse.? I fail to find it in there.

[Gabben]

Maybe the PM feature should be dispensed with to avoid the possibility of abuse?

Bones

Maybe the human race should be dispensed with to avoid the possibility of slander and betrayal.

Lise

[JanetLG]

Gabben,

It is not 'punishment', it is me telling what happened, from my side.

And the 'crime' is not 'alleged' - I asked her to stop PMing me with details of things that were hurtful to me because of my past. Surely, you don't want me to post all THAT here, as proof, do you?!

The issue is NOT whether or not Ami stopped PMing me when I asked her to. That is a distortion of what I said. My point was that Ami is NOT the victim of some nasty forum member who 'rejected' her, becasue I didn't do that - read back through this thread to the copies of the PMs that I sent her yesterday, and you will see that it wasn't me who wanted to end the friendship.

Janet

[Ami]

As close as you and I were, when you asked me NOT to PM you anymore--- that was the end of the friendship---in MY mind. 
  I graciously wished you well . To me, it was over at that point.
 

[Gabben]

My point was that Ami is NOT the victim of some nasty forum member who 'rejected' her, because I didn't do that - read back through this thread to the copies of the PMs that I sent her yesterday, and you will see that it wasn't me who wanted to end the friendship.

Janet

Ami cared about you - her feelings were hurt, is that a crime?  

I read back through this board and no where could I find where Ami portrayed you as a "nasty forum member"..even IF she did, a least she did not disclose your identity as to harm your reputation, such as you are doing to Ami here on this thread.

Are you really going to deny that posting this is NOT a violation of Ami's limits?  I mean, come on, really.

Lise