What is normal (emotionally healthy)-----In Your Opinion?

[Ami]

As I face myself, I can see what good mental health is and can see where I need to go.I see how people with good mental health  live by their cores. It is the compass. When you are abused, your compass needle goes "wacky". Living with an N is,of course, a wacky existence. Up is down, good is bad, black is white. Then, the next day,if the N is in another mood, it is all opposite. How can you develop a solid core with  all that?
 So, I went out in to life with the compass being "screwy" and I got a '"screwy" life complete with domestic abuse(24 years--oy)
 Now, it is time to get the compass back to it's original purpose--guiding me.
 My compass was always OK. I just did not trust it. I could not trust my perceptions. I could not think or feell b/c I was frozen. I left my M's house, but I was a frozen person, just as she left me.
  Now, it is about 'thinking" with my OWN mind. This is all new ,for me. I did not think . I acted on my "internal program". I was still trying to keep my M safe and not have her get mad at me. I replayed it over and over.
  Now,I am on a rehabilitation program.                            Ami

[Bella_French]

Dear Bella,

I like the term 'Stability' and so, I looked it up ..........

Advanced Trait Descriptions : Stability

calm, patient, easy-going, never gets too emotional, remains cool when others panic, not quick tempered, less prone to depression, trusting, optimistic, self confident, not swayed by emotions, not prone to envy, rarely worries, well adjusted, less prone to physical and mental sickness, more likely to exercise, able to bounce back from hardships.


Love, Leah

I like it, Leah:)

X bella

[Whistler]

Well, after my ordeal with my wife when I became "unglued" myself for a while, I would say emotional stability is our ability to keep our "locus of control" within ourselves
and and deal with all life's issues from a point of strength and compassion.

[Ami]

Wow
 Well said, Whistler !                  Ami

[Whistler]

It's hard to know what is reality after a while with an N. I must admit I didn't know for a long time that I was the one being abused. And then I thought I was an N because I began asking for some basic things in the relationship. Determining the reality of a relationship situation is tough, especially for outsiders. People don't want to believe that there are really devious, manipulative people. (And I tried to control another person from trying to control me) Big mistake!!!!

[Ami]

It's hard to know what is reality after a while with an N.



Try having an N mother---bleh.
 I think that emotional health is all about seeing the truth--about ourselves and our environment(other people, the world). I think that if we can keep throwing  out the lies and find the essentials truths , we will be well. It takes so long, though.
                                                        Best to You, Whistler ,       Ami