Ovulation Sticks

[gratitude28]

Bear with me here, and please read all of this so you won't think I have anything against this process...

I mentioned my sister is pregnant. She has been trying for about a year, but hubby is never around (hunting, work, golf, whatever) and she also has business trips. So she is pregnant now, and I am happy for her.

Yesterday we were talking about it and she was saying she and her friend were doing the ovulation sticks together to get pregnant. I am trying to figure out why I find this annoying. I think because she is never thankful for what happens in her life. She seems to think that she was able to control it by using the sticks. Now that may be true, but I think it also made me think that I have never heard her be grateful for anything she has in her life. She seems to believe she controls everything around her.

Does this make any sense???? Could there be some other reason why I find this irksome??????

Love, Beth

[dandylife]

If she's saying it with a sense of smugness, I can see how that would be annoying. Or a sense of "I'm smarter because I did....."

Dandylife

[nogadge]

Ovulation usually occurs within 10 to 12 days following the ending of the mens cycle, approximately half way between cycles, allowing for 2-3 days for ovulation.  Nogadge

[Ami]

Dear Beth
 I think you are reacting to her and not the process of ovulation sticks, of course. I hear that you do not like the 'notion" she has that she can control life. She probably believes it and this may be what is "bugging" you.
 If you cannot be honest with an N, you get mad at "little things" like how they "sqeezed the toothpaste".It seems like there are SO many things you want to say to your sister and cannot ,so the ovulation sticks are symbolic of the many,many things you WISH you could say, but cannot b/c she will not recieve them.  Compost what does not fit.   Love   Ami

[Gabben]

I think it is annoying because your sister sounds like she exudes arrogance. Arrogant people can be annoying.

But remember...what we see in other can sometimes be a reflection of ourselves. I know I have gone through my arrogant phase and who knows I still might me

However, you beth, do not strike me as arrogant. As a matter of fact I think the reason that you are not clearly able to define what it is about your sister that annoys you is a sign that you and your sister are worlds apart.

Lise

[Certain Hope]

Beth,

Is this to be your sister's first child?

Are there any other grandchildren in the family besides your kids?

Love,
Carolyn

[gratitude28]

Hi All, and thanks for helping me puzzle through this. I feel like my feelings are a bit irrational here, so I appreciate you treating me like a sane person
Carolyn,
This is her first child. She became a doctor this year. She lives near my parents and they dote on her. I have two children. My dad loves them, but hardly ever calls. My mother could not be bothered with them. She finds children in general annoying.
Lise,
Thank you very much. I also very much thought I must be seeing something in myself I don't like to have that reaction. I still think there is something, but I am not sure what it is. Maybe it is the arrogance. I certainly was very arrogant for a long time. It's true, I don't think I am now - I try very hard to be grateful and humble... But I do still have my tendencies, I am sure. And, yes, although I do not think she is an N, I think she has traits. I think I also wonder if she wants the baby as a thing, or because she wants a baby (a person).
Ami,
I think honesty is an issue. I think maybe it bothers me that she will not look at the real reason it took a long time to get pregnant (her husband is not around) instead of making it a fertility issue. I feel like she has her head in the sand much of the time - with him and with my parents.
Again, thank you all very much. I really appreciate the help.
Love, Beth

[Certain Hope]

Beth,

Okay... first off, you do not seem to me to be a person who envies or gets jealous, so what I'm going to say is just a general thought, not that I'm thinking it "fits" you based on anything I've ever noticed about you (and I hope that makes sense!)

Just seemed like it may be a possibility (because I can see myself possibly reacting this way) that you might be feeling as though - - here she is, already doted on, a physician and all... and now she's going to have a child, too!??!!  Too much!! And here I am, with 2 children who get ignored/neglected by their grandparents, for the most part, but I bet that they'll be all over her child, spoiling it rotten and paying all sorts of attention.

..... just another nip and tuck in her perfectly manicured life, ovulation sticks and all.  Yes, it's annoying.

((((((((Beth))))))))   I might be all wet, but so many of the things you've written about your folks are so similar to my own, just thought it might be worth chiming in.

Love,
Carolyn

[lighter]

Ahhhh, Beth, lol.

I thought you meant 'sticks' as in 'to the wall....'

not as in 'ovulation kit.'

Lighter

[gratitude28]

Carolyn,
I think you might be right. It will be interesting to see how they are with her kids. I am sure they will say they are closer because she lives nearer to them.

Lighter, lol... That is a much more precise term!!!!!!

Love, Beth