Oh Swimmer, you can't imagine the things she tells people about me and the comments she posted on my myspace a year ago. I shared before that I used a passage from an article on NMs to show their lack of boundaries and mentioned that she liked to go around naked and forced me to be around her. So she posted that when I left in 95 she found in my room a black pair of panties with a whole at the 'back' with a dildo that proves that I like to do dirty and dark things, that it was her who insisted on taking me to the dermatologist and that I didn't go and now I have acne scars in my face just like my father who has evil dna and I am ugly as f**k, that if it wasn't for her to take me to the optician's and buy me glasses I would be cross-eyed like my aunt (my father's sister) etc. What can you counter-comment on that, and what would have happened if I didn't see this comment promptly and left it there, on the page that I used to have samples of my writing as reference, havng had the myspace link on my CV? What if a potential employer read it? She releases so much poison and I don't know how much and where it's spilled all these years I am NC. Yes, your NM says NC is not healthy, mine writes in emails that she has repeatedly tried to wise me up and understand that the only thing there is for me to do is to go crawling back at her and ask for her forgiveness for being such a rotten child.
I think her biggest problem is, the one that makes her really angry, is that she thought that with whatever she did, all this abuse, I would never find the gut to leave and go NC. She just can't handle it.