Happy Trails!

[Anonymous]

Yawn

[phoenix]

My ego isn't so huge as to think this place couldn't carry on without me.    

Seeker, you are one of the least egotistical people here; what stands alone is we will miss you. Take care, so sorry to see you go.   Phoenix

[flower]

Hi Seeker,

I remember the support you have given me and I will miss you.

[OnlyMe]

Hi Seeker,
I have felt like leaving, too, but have decided to stick around in hopes of getting stronger, and eventually being able to help others the way they have helped me.
You were one of the voices who welcomed and helped me survive thus far, and I'll miss seeing you here.

[Anonymous]

Hi y'all.  Seeker here.

Hey, DG.  Did you enjoy that PM I sent you?  You are the ONLY one I PMd.  For everyone else: It didn't take much to get Discount Girl's goat.  All I did was say I was going to push Other Guest's buttons since 'he' wouldn't back off the Invalidation thing and look what all is happening!  Good work, "girl!"  Drama Galore!  Thank you for the validation of my Truth.  Just in time for the holidays!

I do enjoy being falsely accused.  I enjoy it so much I'm out.  So claim your victory, Discount Girl.  It's all about the Drama Game.  You can congratulate yourself on that Iago routine.  You too Portia.  And your myriad guests.     As they say in Monty Python's The Holy Grail: Never mind who is killing who, this is supposed to a happy occasion!  

I hope the sincere posters have found this board helpful and informative.  I have.  It can be a great, happy place.  But it's time for me to move on.  My ego isn't so huge as to think this place couldn't carry on without me.    And it certainly isn't worth the head trip that Troll (I'll just call all of them Troll for now) is trying to lay on me.  I know that I am stronger for having been here.  Character assassination is typical of all our relatives isn't it?  Such a warm familiar feeling.  Thanks again DG!

Here's some info that might help some.  I found it on www.bullyonline.org/workbully/myths.htm.

Myths about Victims of Bullies (BTW they prefer the term "target" to "victim")

Victims are weak and inadequate
It is always the bully who is weak and inadequate. Bullies resort to labelling others as "weak" and "unstable" in order to appear "normal" in comparison. Normal people don't need to bully; only weak people need to bully to hide their weakness and inadequacy. Therefore anyone who is exhibiting bullying behaviours is revealing and admitting to being weak and inadequate.

Victims are weak
Targets of bullying have no interest in power or exercising power. They go to work to work and they are not interested in office politics or conflict. Targets of bullying have high moral values, a well-developed integrity, a vulnerability (eg need to pay the mortgage), a strong sense of fair play and reasonableness, a low propensity to violence, a reluctance to pursue grievance, disciplinary or legal action, a strong forgiving streak and a mature understanding of the need to resolve conflict with dialogue. Weak people disingenuously confuse these hallmarks of character with weakness. Targets of bullying will withstand daily abuse for months, often years, but the first time a bully gets a taste of their own medicine they immediately run whingeing to authority for protection. That's weakness.

Victims are loners
Targets of bullying are independent, self-reliant, self-motivated, have no need to form gangs or join cliques, have no need to impress, and have no interest in office politics.

Victims are not team players
Targets of bullying are not corporate clones and drones. They are independent, self-reliant, self-motivated, imaginative, innovative, and full of ideas. Bullies operate a divide and rule regime and work hard to isolate, exclude and disempower their target who they then falsely accuse of "not being a team player".

I am not worried about my reputation.  I can live with the choices I've made and the words I have spoken here.  For those of you truly recovering from healing, please remember you have something a bully can never have.  Love in your heart.  For those of you who gave me reassurance in my hour of need, I do truly appreciate it.  You are wonderful people and you know who you are.

I'll take this experience as a hint from the universe that it's time to move on.  Again, I'm out.  And I mean it.  I've always meant everything I have said.

Love and Peace, Seeker

You're always playing games with other poster's heads and making alliances with other game players here and now you're kicking & tantrum throwing & crying foul Seeker.   Really! Get a life, grow up, and treat others with the same respect that you demand.

[Portia]

I do enjoy being falsely accused. I enjoy it so much I'm out. So claim your victory, Discount Girl. It's all about the Drama Game. You can congratulate yourself on that Iago routine. You too Portia. And your myriad guests.

My myriad guests?

What does that mean?

Am I being accused of being more than I am?

Please speak clearly seeker so that I know what to respond to, how to defend myself, if that is necessary.

What are you accusing me of, specifically?

Are you prepared to tell me, to talk about this? Or are you intending to leave, without discussion?

Is this your formal goodbye? Why not stop reading for a few hours or days instead?

Why does everything have to be black or white, right or wrong, bad or good? This type of thinking is exactly just what our N parents, family members, partners do. It’s easy to simply react and not think. It’s hard work trying to understand other people.

My interpretation of ‘drama’ appears to me to be very different to your view seeker. Want to talk about it? If not, okay. P

[Anonymous]

Portia,

Perhaps it was a reference (amongst several) to the thread where you admitted to posting under different names and guests.

Have you ever considered that it is you being contentious, here?

To that old phrase -the elephant in the living room'

the truth is Portia - you are the elephant

[Portia]

I'm not that fat!   P

[les]

Hope you might return at some point Seeker.  To me your voice was clear and true and I will miss it.

Les

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