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Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on January 04, 2014, 10:11:54 AM ---I love the idea of this being the last year of the conflicts, Tupp and Lighter.
You both deserve to at some point leave the past behind, and move into new life.
In the meanwhile, hope the work you're doing to close those doors strengthens and calms you.
xxoo
Hops
--- End quote ---
Thanks, Hops :)
I have discovered that the organisation in question received a phone call, supposedly from me, telling them to cancel the funding and close down the account. Sigh. All they ask for, apparently, is a name, address and postcode. You can get that from the phone book :shock: There's no written record, no contact was made to ensure they were talking to the right person, there was no follow up or double checking - she simply called, gave them my name and address and they stopped his funding.
They have apologised and offered to reinstate his funding but I am going to make a formal complain and request that they change their procedures so that it takes a bit more info to cancel a claim and perhaps a courtesy call to double check the recipient was actually the person doing it!
I've no proof it's her so I don't think it's going to help with an injunction. But I'm still gathering info and will go and see about getting one anyway - even if I can't now I will have everything in place when/if it happens again. I felt sick, I felt angry, I had a bit of a cry. But then I just come out feeling even more determined to do right by my son and show them they can't get me down. So an early night tonight and back to it again tomorrow.
Have been naughty and bought myself a supply of choccie biccies to keep my strength up - I think a little treat is needed to get me through this!
Meh:
That's evil :evil: that phone call was.
Yah, I've been drinking and eating chocolate since Thanksgiving. 8)
Thank god for chocolate
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Green Bean on January 07, 2014, 08:58:56 PM ---That's evil :evil: that phone call was.
Yah, I've been drinking and eating chocolate since Thanksgiving. 8)
Thank god for chocolate
--- End quote ---
Chocolate saves many a situation, Green :)
Yep she's pretty unhinged. I've also just been told that she's sent anonymous 'Santa' letters to her great grandchildren, who she's never met - again there's concern as to how she's found out where they're living.
I had been wondering whether, once I've got all this paperwork sorted out, I should send a copy to her GP so that he's aware of her behaviour? A friend of mine thinks that's a bad idea and could make it look like I'm just trying to cause trouble. What do you guys think?
lighter:
Tupp:
Perhaps you could gain more ground by filing an actual police report, complete with a timeline of all the terrible things your mother has done to you, including those that can be traced back to her. Are there reports that trace back to her regarding initial complaints about your son? I thought there were.
At that point, I'd head to the magistrate court and ask for that restraining order against her.
Seems to me those official documents are something that can be turned over to a GP. That way you're sharing official court documents, and not just spreading gossip, or appearing to spread gossip, rather.
BTW, what would be your goal in informing the GP about your mother's conduct? To help her? Tattle on her? Spoil a relationship she's enjoyed up to this point? Get the guy thinking, and perhaps asking harder questions? Perhaps helping to keep your mother under control, which is the only idea that actually makes sense to me.
If she cares what the GP thinks, and he's been put on notice officially about all the terrible things she's truly done to you, maybe she won't add to the list in hopes of leaving some doubt in the man's mind?
Not sure, but I really hate that she continues to strike out, and harm you and your son.
WTH? It takes so little effort to fudge up the works, and your son needs consistent routines he can count on.... not to have services yanked away whenever momzilla decides it's time to have a little fun, pick up the phone, and......
::sigh::
She's so evil, and underhanded, and sneaky, and such a coward while doing it......
it honestly takes my breath away.
Hang in there. Consider filing that police report, and asking for some kind of protection. Just bc a sociopath gave birth to you doesn't mean you have no rights in the justice system. Does it?
Every time she does something, you can continue adding reports. The woman deserves a file, and so does her child molesting rat bastard husband, IMO.
Why oh why is it so easy to create a lengthy file in the good guys, while the bad guys seem untouchable?!?!?!?!??!
Lighter
Meh:
:( I think the best we can do is move on if possible. Like stay in one's own world and own zone.
I would venture to say that most GP's don't really have the time to treat people thoroughly or change people or whatever.
I think maybe do something meaningful with the paperwork, have a copy or something in case you need it one day but for the most part my gut response is just don't do it, because it's more enmeshment.
It would probably only be useful if it was a legal submission in a battle or if she wasn't an independent adult and you had some kind of custody over her.
Bleh, my opinion is to try to un-enmesh by not involving one's-self. I'm not sure what exactly the paperwork is but Doctors are mainly into things written by nurses or doctors otherwise it probably is just filed at the very back of a folder.
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