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Hopalong:
Oh, Amber. My heart goes out to you.
I am so sorry for this enormous loss.

Please know you're being held in so many hearts.

And that you will not drown in your grief...even though it may feel that way.
You will survive this. You are going to be okay.

(And meanwhile, "not okay" is totally okay...)

Love to you and loving thoughts for your beloved Hubs.

(((((((((((((((Amber)))))))))))))))

Hops

teartracks:



Your angel took himself lightly and flew away!

Inspired by G.K. Chesterton quote.

Meh:
Oh my God Amber, that was so fast. I wasn't expecting to read this.  :(   What a shitty Thanksgiving. :(

Death is always shocking to me. Even if it's normal it's a total change. Sorry hun. I'm thinking about you. I'm actually crying over here after reading this. I think I'm now sensitized to death in a way that I wasn't before my brother died. I'm so sorry it just sucks no matter what.

Cancer is rough. Today a customer called me and told me he had pancreatic cancer. I couldn't quite recall the survival rate for certain but I was hearing the back of my memory say "the survival rate for pancreatic cancer is pretty bad/low".  So basically the customer was telling me he was probably dying but without saying it and I was trying to process this. I asked him when he was finished with his treatment and he said December so I maybe too cheerfully said "Oh that's good" because it wasn't too far off. He seemed to be okay with the conversation, he was happy and thanked me. It's awkward. I think I probably should have talked to him longer about his cancer treatment but I'm not sure. One wishes there was a way to somehow make things better or say something to make it better and yet there are probably few words that could help. I think the situation can probably make most people feel powerless, friends, family, extended acquaintances. It really takes a while to adjust and figure out how cope with it. I am not really sure why I am writing this. It's just that it immediately made me think about you and your husband, all the people surrounding you and all the recent changes that you are going through.

mudpuppy:

--- Quote ---Autumn wants to see her Dad one last time and I'm trying to give that to myself as well.
--- End quote ---

When they took my girl out on the gurney, before it left our room, I stopped them and kissed her one last time.
I'm glad I did.

You have my sympathy, Amber.

mud

mudpuppy:

--- Quote ---I couldn't quite recall the survival rate for certain but I was hearing the back of my memory say "the survival rate for pancreatic cancer is pretty bad/low".
--- End quote ---

Depends on the stage. Stage 4 is about zero. Even stage 1 is only 10 or 15%.


--- Quote --- I think I probably should have talked to him longer about his cancer treatment but I'm not sure.
--- End quote ---

It probably doesn't matter. He's dealing with his mortality not whether people know what to say. Every person who has cancer has been on the other side of the conversation not knowing what to say to someone else who had it and they know how hard and awkward it is.

mud

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