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Gaining Strength:
Rejection
Failure
Not good enough - not deserving
Most of my shame is attached to one of these three.
The third is the most crippling.
I'm ready to go within.
They evoke a physical response - a feeling.
Stand within the pain and reshape the feeling.
Gaining Strength:
From a page about cPTSD and having a Narcissistic parent:
One of the main differences between healthy parents and narcissistic parents is the understanding that the child will one day be an adult who has to be able to function on their own. They need self esteem, and self confidence to function well as an adult.
Narcissistic parents tear their children’s self esteem down, in order to control and manipulate them. They do not see the child as an individual person with rights of their own. They see the child as an extension of themselves and property that they have every right to abuse as they see fit.
Gaining Strength:
Here's more. Nothing new and yet it turns my stomach.
Living with a narcissistic parent is living in constant fear. Life is unpredictable. You can follow all of the rules as you understand them and then suddenly the parent has changed the rules without telling you. You are punished for not following the new rule, which you has no way to know about.
This is a way in which the narcissistic parent can make you wrong all the time. No matter how hard you try, you are always wrong and always not good enough. There may be rewards from time to time for complying but later on the parent sets up a scenario for you to fail.
lighter:
((((GS))))
You deserved to be cherished, protected, and cared for as a child.
Your parents couldn't do that for you.
They were broken.
If they could have, they would have.
They couldn't.
I'm so sorry. It wasn't fair.
Lighter
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: lighter on April 18, 2016, 11:09:44 PM ---((((GS))))
You deserved to be cherished, protected, and cared for as a child.
Your parents couldn't do that for you.
They were broken.
If they could have, they would have.
They couldn't.
I'm so sorry. It wasn't fair.
Lighter
--- End quote ---
Abuse is still abuse and abuse is unforgiveable.
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