Last night was rough, with a lot of feelings of loneliness and self-doubt. But, I did finally manage to get some sleep. Today, I feel something is changed since I was able to be open to just feeling last night. Today is a beautiful day and I feel happy again.

I love that I have feelings and they change!
I know that what I am doing at this point in my life is growing up emotionally. I'm still emotionally enough of a little kid that I hate the experience of feeling frustrated, confused, hurt, alone and adandoned AGAIN.

I'm grown up enough to realize that these are exactly where I most need to grow to be happy and healthy. I recognize that the more open and welcoming I am to these feelings without trying to avoid them by "fixing" them or "doing something" about them, the more I grow each time they come up. I also realize that this has been happening all my life, and it hasn't killed me yet! It used to be terrifying, now its just inconvenient.
The ambivalence I feel is a result of the confusion in my feelings and thoughts. The confusion is not a result of something else, it is a memory of my experience of growing up. It is how I know that I'm am back in an area that I have tremendous growth potential in.

The confusion does not mean that I am damaged or that there is anything wrong with me, like I used to fear. I don't know where that fear went. I am very self-accepting and self-validating today. I don't KNOW why besides what is in these paragraphs, it just is. I'm good with that.
I don't NEED a therapist right now. I'm making tremendous progress directing my own learning and growth (if I say so myself

), with prayer, reading, thought, feeling, and suggestions and support from many people. I WANTED a therapist to make this easier for me and reduce the rough nights. I wasn't getting what I needed from this therapist, so I'm not going to continue. I'm going to call and tell this therapist that I'm not going to continue to see him, and cancel the next scheduled appointment. I'm not sure yet whether I will look for another therapist, I will wait and see how I feel. Vunil, perhaps you were giving him the benefit of the doubt because you see things in a balanced way, and I was already holding on enough to the negative view of things? In any case, no apology necessary.
Right now, I want to sleep by myself in my own bed in my own place. I want to have a say in how my place is, without having to fight just to be recognized. I'm willing to sleep on the floor, eat off paper plates, and anything else I need to do to get that. I don't expect I will need to do that. I'm well off financially right now, but not rich. No one will die or even starve, be homeless, etc. because I do this. Why have I been wrapped around a pole on this? I think I know. I was trying to work this out mutually with my wife, and she is not able to do that with me. Now, I am working it out for myself.
My wife does not treat me with respect. I don't get even my most basic wants or needs met in relationship with her. I no longer need to know anything else about that. I do not want to continue being married to her. I don't need anyone else's permission (even God's) to live my life and take the best care of myself that I can. All of the searching for permissions, reasons, or decisions was simply avoiding me taking my own power out of fear. I accept the responsibilities for my decisions and my behavior.