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How Do You Manage Your Stress?
Hopalong:
Lighter, your kind, supportive posts for Tup are leaking over here!
(As have been your more cerebral, richly interesting talks with PR.)
It's neat how one can just go sit in a spare armchair when
the house is full of conversation. Even if one's too tired to talk
one can tune in and feel part of it.
:D
Hugs
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on March 28, 2017, 10:39:51 AM ---Lighter, your kind, supportive posts for Tup are leaking over here!
(As have been your more cerebral, richly interesting talks with PR.)
It's neat how one can just go sit in a spare armchair when
the house is full of conversation. Even if one's too tired to talk
one can tune in and feel part of it.
:D
Hugs
Hops
--- End quote ---
That's one of the things that I love about the forum, the way that other people's posts/responses/suggestions and so on can help other people, I enjoy reading other threads even though I don't always feel I have anything to say about it but I get so much from reading other people's posts and seeing their perspective. It's such a nice little community here :) x
Twoapenny:
I feel I am going down a bit of a rabbit hole at the moment (in a good way!). I have been doing quite a lot of yoga and meditation and I've been having some quite strong emotional reactions. Apart from the flashbacks I've already mentioned I've found myself crying (in a releasing sort of way) and whilst meditating today I had another strong (but brief) flashback of being raped and then went completely numb and found I couldn't follow the meditation any longer.
I feel my body is saying now is the time to heal from the sexual abuse, which I've known for a long time is a huge blockage that I just haven't been able to shift. We are safe in our nice flat. My son's health is stable enough that I don't need to focus on him to the exclustion of everything else. Our financial situation is stable enough that money isn't a terrible worry at the minute and the weather is really warming up so it's great for gardening, nice long naps in the garden and lots of walks. I think all the signs are saying this is a good time to do it so I'm going with it, looking after myself very carefully. I'm trying to sort out some regular care for my son so that I can go back to the nice counsellor as well. All in all it feels like a safe time to do this; I think I will probably write a lot of it down on here but I will flag it up if it's unpleasant as I know it can be very triggering. Just wanted to get it down here for now :) x
Hopalong:
((((Tupp)))
I am SO glad to hear you're readying to go back to the T you liked and trusted.
That's going to be a huge help, and I know she'll make you feel safe as you talk
through this crucial healing.
You are brave and I believe you that you are ready.
I can't imagine what peace and power you are going to find in your life as a result.
So impressed and encouraged for you!
love,
Hops
lighter:
(((Hops))) I'm touched deeply by other people's journey's on the board. I find important things on old threads, and new ones too: ) I'm glad you're feeling warmth leak from anything I write. Truly, thank you: )
Tupp.... what I've learned about trauma, involving attachment, is that it's more difficult to overcome. EMDR is super duper helpful with single event trauma not involving attachment, and can heal completely in a very short time.... weeks. Amazing stuff.
Brain spotting is another aspect of EMDR, involving eye movement. I'm trying to figure all this out myself, but it seems promising for everyone moving out of trauma, IME. I hope you can find some EMDR basics and add them to your self care rituals as you can. As I've said before, just becoming aware of your inner world, and paying attention to it is UBER important... you're already doing that.
Writing out old history/trauma with new story lines and victorious outcomes is another way of addressing how our brains and bodies hold on to trauma that might be very helpful. You may want to ask your T about Somatic Therapy, and the best options for you.
If you have the chance to watch some of Dr. Van Der Kolk's videos on Youtube,
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXr_IB1ELCk
and maybe read his book THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE... it might help you make connections, and choices that move you through healing as quickly as can be managed. I have information on Brain Spotting I'd love to share with you if I can figure out how to do that.
I know this.... you can't change your past, but you can absolutely change your future, and how you feel about it..... all new, and untarnished. You're seeking relief and freedom..... not being afraid to look at your pain and wounds.... it's all pointing to finding relief, and space to live a completely new life for yourself, IME.
I've watched you fight, grow, take action in your life. What will you do when the past is forced to release it's grip on you? How will you learn to frame your reality going forward?
I can't wait to see :D
((((Tupp)))) I'm honored to share this journey with you.
Lighter
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