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Heist on Something....
lighter:
How bout that?!?!
It's wonderful, Hops!
You've somehow bumped and scuttled to relative safety. It wasn't easy, or comfortable to move through areas of feeling exposed and unsafe. You and B seem to be doing the work, building shelter and safety between you.
Remember, B can't read minds. Don't let things build up. If you feel discomfort, be proactive. It's not a big deal to state your needs, and expect compliance. B wants to please you.
Have fun being playful.... that's the most fun.
😋Lighter
Hopalong:
"Bumped and scuttled" is a brilliant phrase.
You've delighted not just Heist Hops, but poet Hops, this morning!
Thanks, (((Lighter)))--
hugs
Hops
Twoapenny:
Hopsie, what occurs to me as I read through your stuff is that B, with his corporate, conservative, solution focused background (that seems to be what he was born into and what he's continued with throughout life) might be utterly delighted to have met this liberal minded, free speaking, deep thinking, emotionally charged woman with such a wealth of life experience and a heart like an ocean. I keep imagining that he's utterly thrilled to have someone so different in his life and I think he's probably enjoying every minute of this completely new experience :) I think it all sounds smiley and I'm looking forward to reading more updates :) xx
sKePTiKal:
Hey Hops - check your weather. We're under a storm warning that involves wind gusts 50-60 mph. As much rain as we've both gotten - trees fall over. I lost 3-4 last march in a storm no one predicted.
Hopalong:
Thanks Amber...yup, wind.
Not much to do except duck, unfortunately. (And pray for my big tree!)
Tupp thank you. I am thinking it's possible too.
But gotta say, B's level of anxiety and discomfort with anything new or that he's not in control of is beginning to sink in. We're going to a big city I used to live in for a night and he kept talking about his apprehensions and whether he could still "take someone" if we're attacked. I kept thinking, my god man, we'll use common sense about where we walk and bring a friendly attitude.
I realize how isolating it is, in a way, to feel you must "look rich" or hold yourself apart from others. I've waded into poor urban neighborhoods when I taught there, ditto Appalachia, ditto other countries, etc. I've never been reckless about where I walk but likewise have never led with paranoid feelings about whole cities.
I wouldn't take him to the scariest areas I used to work in (in his fancy car) but likewise, I don't want to FOCUS on stranger-danger all the time. I'm beginning to catch on that he's genuinely afraid of new experiences. I wonder if the OCD has anything to do with it?
Just rambling....
xxoo
Hops
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