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lighter:
Thanks, Tupp.  My youngest dd has trouble with her jaw.  I'll share this with her: )

Lighter

Twoapenny:

--- Quote from: lighter on July 27, 2019, 08:24:21 AM ---Thanks, Tupp.  My youngest dd has trouble with her jaw.  I'll share this with her: )

Lighter

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I'm finding it really helpful, Lighter, so much so that I keep having to go and have a nap after I've done it, it seems to flood tension out of me.  I'm still focusing really hard on trying to get as destressed as possible over the summer break so that next year isn't the stressful nightmare that this year has been.  Feels odd to have to work at not being stressed, though, bit of an oxymoron!  But I'm sticking with it.  It's half two in the afternoon and I'm still not dressed - I've pottered about at home, sorted out food, done yoga, meditated, updated on here, caught up on emails, had a chat with a friend on the phone.  It feels wrong to me not to just rush rush rush but I'm forcing myself not to - I want not rushing to be my new default setting.  We're going to the beach tonight and I am actually going to make an effort to wear something nice.  I never bother, it always feels like too much hassle and I think there's no point to it but I am experimenting with changing my look to see if that makes anything else change :)  So an effort will be made :)  We'll see how it goes lol xx

lighter:
I'm curious how making an effort with appearances works out this evening, Tupp.   

I can say this about that... when going through the airports I always make an effort.  People treat me different.  Even if I forget I've taken that time, people treat me better, in general.   I usually pick security lines manned by men, out of habit.   In the big city, women were often cruel in the workplace, school, and social situations.  That's really sad, but we're set up to compete, not support each other,  aren't we?   

I don't have to worry about that when I'm not making an effort with appearances.  There's a lovely feeling of being invisible when I throw on comfy clothing, hair in a bun, sunglasses, no makeup. 


have fun, and stay in observer mode: )  I hope you feel seen, and lovely in whatever you wear.


Lighter





Twoapenny:

--- Quote from: lighter on July 27, 2019, 10:40:17 AM ---I'm curious how making an effort with appearances works out this evening, Tupp.   

I can say this about that... when going through the airports I always make an effort.  People treat me different.  Even if I forget I've taken that time, people treat me better, in general.   I usually pick security lines manned by men, out of habit.   In the big city, women were often cruel in the workplace, school, and social situations.  That's really sad, but we're set up to compete, not support each other,  aren't we?   

I don't have to worry about that when I'm not making an effort with appearances.  There's a lovely feeling of being invisible when I throw on comfy clothing, hair in a bun, sunglasses, no makeup. 


have fun, and stay in observer mode: )  I hope you feel seen, and lovely in whatever you wear.


Lighter

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Lighter, it was very odd!  I just wore a dress and a bit of lip gloss (usually would wear shorts and T shirt and no make up) and people were friendlier!  I keep my head shaved so it did occur to me that perhaps if I'm in casual or blokey clothes I look a bit aggressive?  And maybe less so with a dress and a bit of make up on?  It was funny, I really hadn't expected it to affect anyone else, it was more just about me trying to shake myself up a bit but I'm going to try it again tomorrow and see what happens! xx

Hopalong:
Woo HOO, Tupp!

After all these years we find out you shave your head?

You DEFINITELY do not follow the madding crowd.

More awe...and so glad you had a good time!

Hugs
Hops

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