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Hopalong:
You write SO well, Tupp.
And there ARE a lot of work-from-home jobs!!!
I had a church acquaintance who made a LARGE living
teaching online for an online university.
There are so many of them who hire online instructors.
Every subject you can imagine.
There might even be an online tutoring program.
Good luck with this!
Hugs
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on October 12, 2019, 12:53:46 PM ---You write SO well, Tupp.
And there ARE a lot of work-from-home jobs!!!
I had a church acquaintance who made a LARGE living
teaching online for an online university.
There are so many of them who hire online instructors.
Every subject you can imagine.
There might even be an online tutoring program.
Good luck with this!
Hugs
Hops
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Thanks, Hops :)
Things are changing quite rapidly at the moment - it's kind of exciting and scary at the same time :)
I've been reading up online about work from home/work while you travel/work online ways of making money and am trying to work out which methods to try first. Things that don't require any training or equipment will be the easiest ways to make a bit of cash, but also tend to pay the least. Other things will require me doing some training or refresher courses, possibly just from home, so will take more time to start showing any income, but pay better. So I'm trying to find the best way to balance my time between things that will help now and things that will help longer term. It's interesting to look into and I think it's very fortunate that I've got stuff I can try out without having to make a huge commitment to it in terms or time or money, and it will at least give me an indication of whether it's worth taking further. It feels exciting to at least have possibilities again - I've felt really lacking in that department for a while now.
Money is also looking a bit more promising at the moment. A problem with our gas meter has finally been sorted out and I'm owed about £300, so I'm looking forward to that coming in to my account. Other things that have been niggling me seem to be smoothing over and it all just generally feels a bit more positive and a bit more like something I can do something with. I think I've felt for a while now at the mercy of other people and the system and I find that intolerable, in all honesty. So it feels good to be finding another way to get things done.
I've a friend coming to stay next week which I'm really looking forward to. We haven't seen each other in over a year and I've really missed her. I've kind of pulled myself out of the help I was doing with the group. The lady running it is very nice, but I have struggled with her constantly changing requests and responses. After the last incident (where she asked everyone what they thought and then went ahead anyway without waiting for an answer) I've since discovered that she's been in contact with a group that she'd asked me to contact. I don't mind her doing it instead of me, but if she'd told me I wouldn't have wasted my time doing it (basically we've both done the same thing and only one of us needed to. Communication needs improving). I will have to have a think about a way to feed back to her because I think if she carries on like this she'll alienate people who could help. I'm not sure of the best way to do it and think I ought to do it face to face so that's on the back burner for now.
And I'm focusing on moving again :) I'm not sure when or where yet but I will be glad to leave this house :) So I'm focusing on cleaning, de-cluttering and generally keeping on top of things so that when the time comes, I can just pack and go without having to have a huge clear out and spring clean of the place. My main aim to work through is scanning all this blooming paperwork and burning the hard copies. It takes up a lot of space, has a lot of bad memories associated with it and I resent having to pack it all up and lug it from house to house, and then having to give it room. It can bugger off. So I think that's my big job to keep chipping away at over the next few months or so.
Hopalong:
Tupp,
I think scanning and burning the paper piles is a brilliant idea. This way they'll take up a LOT less space in both your home and in your mind. The constant reminder of stacks of sh** is one thing that has been really stressful for me. Beginning to get a grip, so a lot more of it is out of sight. Really helps. Bravo, you.
How lovely that a good friend is coming! Hope you have a wonderful time, take comfort in this friendship.
It sounds great too that you're stepping back from what you can't fix (group leader lady being too scattered to not waste volunteers' time) but, if I understand right, remaining active with the group anyway to possibly build positive relationships?
And of course would love to hear about the moving plan as it shapes up. You deserve a non-damp, cheery home with enough space for you and son to breathe and relax. This was a stop-gap and though moving's hard, I'll keep all fingers and toes crossed for the right place to appear.
Open to the possibility of good things happening! (300 pounds is a nice hint...)
Hugs
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on October 20, 2019, 10:49:03 AM ---Tupp,
I think scanning and burning the paper piles is a brilliant idea. This way they'll take up a LOT less space in both your home and in your mind. The constant reminder of stacks of sh** is one thing that has been really stressful for me. Beginning to get a grip, so a lot more of it is out of sight. Really helps. Bravo, you.
How lovely that a good friend is coming! Hope you have a wonderful time, take comfort in this friendship.
It sounds great too that you're stepping back from what you can't fix (group leader lady being too scattered to not waste volunteers' time) but, if I understand right, remaining active with the group anyway to possibly build positive relationships?
And of course would love to hear about the moving plan as it shapes up. You deserve a non-damp, cheery home with enough space for you and son to breathe and relax. This was a stop-gap and though moving's hard, I'll keep all fingers and toes crossed for the right place to appear.
Open to the possibility of good things happening! (300 pounds is a nice hint...)
Hugs
Hops
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Thanks, Hops :) Yes, I've stepped back from a 'proper' volunteer role: I'm happy to help out as and when but don't want to commit to it now or be a first port of call for different things. I can carry on with the group, making tea and I don't mind doing odd bits and pieces, I just don't want to be committed to it to then find it's all being done differently again.
Friend staying was lovely. Much talking and thinking about next steps, a lovely visit to a local village thought to be the final resting place of a legendary King, very mystical and magical and stunning coastal views.
A decision has been made! We're heading to a different town - same stretch of coastline but a bigger town. We can get a nicer house in a better location, we'll be closer to some good friends, there are some good language schools there so I might even dip my toe back into teaching overseas students; I enjoyed that and it's a lot less stressful than standard state school teaching here. Also a good University; I do keep wondering about further study so it's another possibility. There seem to be more activities and clubs that my son would enjoy but I'll check those out before we make a move; sometimes the way a club's described and what it actually does isn't quite the same. But overall boxes are being ticked, financially it seems possible. It will take a while to sort out, I need to get some more money together and I do want to banish the paperwork; i'm not dragging all this crap with me this time. So it won't be happening for a while but it feels nice to be focusing on something and to be working towards something again :)
lighter:
OH TUPP I'm going to twirl in the moss, and smile to the sun... just over the moon about your plans to move, be closer to friends, and dive back into life... teaching... other opportunities that have yet to be revealed!
That's is amazing news, and I want you to know that it's just the spark I need to go into the office and dig in. After moss twirling, of course; )
Lighter
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