Oh.....such a familiar cadence to the PD legal dance. Forcing one to disprove negatives, with no consequences, for making false allegations.
And, for what? Her actions are nonsensical.... bc they make no sense.
As Brother Mud said to me ..... it's a waste of time trying to make sense of something that will never make any sense.
It's good you stopped trying.....
stopped needing it to make sense, Meh. That's a big step towards healing, IME.
About the legal documents.....you have to answer, bc I've seen TROs granted when the Defendant didn't show. No one needs a restraining order on their permanent record.
I will say this, about representing yourself at any hearing......if the Judge seems perplexed at your mother's actions towards you.....
don't be afraid to ask that Judge for a TRO barring further harassment from your mother. Judges can, and have, granted TROs, in my affairs, without my filing a thing.....I didn't even have to ask. The Judge clearly understood what needed to happen. He granted a TRO. It was in the record.
Your mother might well suffer a consequence for her actions. Maybe this hearing will be a needless bother. Maybe it'l won't.
In any case, there are rules to speaking in Court and to Court officers.
1. Speak like you're talking to a very young child you want to understand you.
2. Do not tell your listener what to think, feel or do. Instead,refer to your evidence, before hand, then state your strongest documented facts, without expectation. You want your listener to come to their own opinions, that way, they might punish your mother for you.
3. If anyone says something ignorant or profoundly stupid about you, treat it as an opportunity to educate your listeners....as though you're helping them.
Do not get angry, exasperated, or react in any way. You remain calm, steady and self assured....you understand what's happening with your mother. You'll help the court understand too.
Don't interrupt, or say negative things about anyone. Always address your mother/everyone, in and out of the room, respectfully and with compassion.
Keep your statements super short. Always. Eye on the ball..... it's easy to ramble when an unhinged person is involved, IME.
No rambling. The court will have a very narrow focus, and you'll do well to figure it out, and address ONLY that, IME.
Once it's over, it's over. Your mother will try to muddy the water. You'll stay focused. The Judge will not be pleased with nonsensical behavior in their court.
As you said....this shall pass.
Lighter
