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Mindfulness and codependence thread
lighter:
Therapist gave me this link... I really like the SOUNDS TRUE website, in general, but here's a link on free trauma skills workshop.
https://product.soundstrue.com/trauma-skills-summit/register/
Twoapenny:
Ooh Lighter, it sends chills down my spine reading that. It's a form of torture, isn't it, and so telling that they only stopped doing it when they realised they couldn't bankrupt you. And then to continue in whichever pathetic way they can - brrrr. Makes me shiver. Not least because of the lack of respect it shows for your girls. Whatever else went on, you were their mum, they were their grandparents. Any normal person would want you to be able to parent well, for their sake. But they do all that hoping to break you. What scum. And so wrong that the legal system can be used to harass people like that. Is it partly because they had enough money to keep throwing at lawyers? It's amazing what money can buy people. There will be sighs of relief all round once they are finally no more xx
lighter:
Yes, Tupp. The ILs have unlimited resources and access to crooked attorneys, with contacts in the good old boy club.
It wasn't about lack of respect. I'll post thought on that later.....I think I have to punch my way through a few rabbit holes and just get it out.
It just never seems like I get enough content INTO my therapeutic release of facts and happenings.
Of the truth.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
(((((((((((((((((((((Lighter))))))))))))))))))))))))) I'm sorry, I don't mean to poke around in old wounds. Please don't feel you need to start heading into rabbit holes that might disturb the lovely peace you've got going on at the moment. I know (from our situation) that the multiple threads around each incident all have stories of their own so unraveling them is never an easy job and often means things get left unsaid. It's messy stuff. I don't mean to bring things up for you, sorry, I am loving reading your stories of all the work you're doing at home and the nice food and garden projects :) xx
lighter:
It IS messy, Tupp. Not anything to do with you, dear friend. Just.....a mess.
I do want to put some of it down here. I've written and erased many posts. They aren't enough to finish what I want to say and leave here.
The upswing is...writing gives me perspective and new understanding, which is part of being done.
I also have this new consistent component of compassion for people I find difficult to remain neutral over.
There's an entirely new aspect....a new narrative wrapped around the " story" I've always operated under.....facts and really uncomfortable truths.
One narrative, that of doubting, enabling, ignorant, denying,minimizing third party opinionated person.....is standing in front of me, asking to be tended to. Asking to be transformed into whatever lesson I can find in it.
Lots going on. Tons of energy for big projects in the house. When the boy shows up, I'll ask for help with harder projects.
And....moving through the house is calm, no whipping myself with old threats and fears....just....flow.
(((Tupp))) Please don't apologize. I never doubt your goodness....never doubt your intentions. Not ever.
Lighter
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