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2021 Farm Log
sKePTiKal:
There have been some bright spots Lighter.
His T wrote him a prescription for a combo of antibiotics - which none of the pharmacies had available. He got a local large animal vet to fill it with horse antibiotics. Yeah. You heard that right. Then, there was walking through my college "town" (it's not really big enough to call it that - but whatever. We had a mid-afternoon knosh at my favorite bakery... and left, with my purse still hanging on the chair. I realized it half a block away and no one had even noticed. Then there was the lovely hotel employee who treated B with kid gloves and extra TLC. Hol has been on her own a lot with S working... and she's been sweet too.
Had chili ready for us, when we got back Tuesday.
Our fingers are still crossed that the back doc on Monday will have some brilliant solution. But, at this point - we just need to know where we stand so we can make plans from there - no matter what we find out.
Today, Hol is cleaning & decorating studio for when friend Deb gets here... and even my same-age old BFF from Jr. High is sending a commemoration of my birthday (which isn't till next week). It's party weekend. B and I are 65 now. I've known V for over 50 years; getting real close to 60. Birthday parties for me are rarer than hen's teeth. (I'm usually giving one.)
I *think* I found the source of his nausea & vomiting; I *think* it's correcting itself. It's only day two, but last night's chicken & dumplings (2 helpings) stayed put without anything more than his normal heartburn. We removed one drug, and I added a tad of ginger in the herbs in the chicken.
B's been working on fixing the damage to Helga - since Hol connected with a pine tree headed from studio to Hut in an ice storm last winter. He is doing what he knows and likes to do - so is happy. We're up to the last few episodes of season 8 in our 2 trip binge of Game of Thrones.
So not all bad here at all. Challenging sometimes - but I have skills, and experience. I'm perfectly OK with the situation as it is, even though IDEALLY I want the desired result. B is very smart, creative - and knows how the gov bureaucracy works, in his particular case. I bring fresh eyes, ideas & perspective to the situation... and methodical logic. Go figure. Neither of us expected to find love at our age. And all this time to getting him completely moved in, has demonstrated a lack of fickleness, dissembling, or any other red flags that give either of us pause. We can almost read each other's minds at this point... but neither assumes the other is accurate.
:D
sKePTiKal:
So, we're still moving forward. The military friendly NP has referred him to a local infectious disease specialist. Now waiting on appt from them, after they receive the paperwork.
Stopping one of the meds he was prescribed has resolved the worst of his stomach issues. Nausea & vomiting showed up under common side effects. And he has been sleeping MUCH better, more often.
I am starting to notice some patterns now. The kinds of negative, self-reinforcing feedback loops like I know we have some experience with. I am able to deflect those from spinning up & taking control of his expectations (and self-fulfilling prophecy pattern) - pretty easily. We work pretty well together that way. And I don't think he's overly attached to negativity. Getting him to admit fear, however, is going to take some more work on my part... so we can address things more logically. It's a definite issue with someone who's been alone so long - you don't have anyone else's point of view to temper your own. I see that in myself some too. Not going to be able to "fix him" - I just want to keep him from catastrophizing and making himself angry.
Overall, we're still having fun. Yesterday wasn't one of my best days - and by the time we were headed back home, I was whiny & crabby. But it never phased him. We both recognize the stubborn in each other. And we still had a good evening.
Gorgeous day today. And next week, he'll be gone again (leaves Tuesday). So while he's finishing up Helga's repairs, we should still have time to make some fun runs out & about. That means that there will likely be one more trip here for appts. before the last move. He has some stuff to take care of first. He thinks he has his house sold, so he needs to be more pain-free to finish up unloading his packrat nest. (I have been warned that he doesn't want to continue that way. Lightening his load is feeling pretty good to him.)
There are some things I'm going to need to create in the house for Buck-space & organization. Not that it'll help when he sets something down & forgets where. LOLOLOL. But I'm anti-clutter... and he tries. I just have to make it easier. :D
lighter:
I hope things keep moving in the right direction, Amber. One step at a time with the medical stuff.
Check your in box.
Lighter
sKePTiKal:
SIGH...
He just left. Still waiting on Infectious Disease appointment. We're hoping it's a short turnaround this time. I think we might've found part of the obstacles preventing this process from moving forward more quickly -- and have a plan to address that. Quickly.
He made me dinner last night. Love a man who cooks!
Depending on how much he & I can accomplish before Christmas, this MIGHT be the last trip back south, minus an extra run for his storage unit stock.
Twoapenny:
Skep, I am keeping every limb I have crossed that the medical issues become easier to manage and that the final move day is sooner rather than later. I can only imagine how frustrating this has been for so long for Buck to deal with alone and how it must be such a tonic for him to have someone by his side. It can be a lonely path. I hope whatever that obstacle is clears away soon.
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