Good morning In Friendship ‘L’, Bludie, Bunny, EC, the guest who likes Pearl Jam and Dr Grossman can-I-call-you-Richard-please?……if I did that on every single thread I responded to I’d be here all day wouldn’t I?
In Friendship do I know you, have we spoken before? Are you another member too?
Other members who know me of old
(? Did I just create a clique there? Am I allowed to say that? See how this type of thing starts us second-guessing ourselves?), this thread is like candy to kids huh? How could I resist. Do you think I’ll ever lose the need to respond to this type of thing? Maybe not. Maybe it’s a good thing. Ponder ponder. Anyhoos:
Question time. In friendship:
I have been reading this board and 'lurking' for many months.
Why? Have you got something to say or ask about your own situation? Or are you simply observing? Which and why?
little fraternity who respond to each others' posts and ignore others
if there were, hypothetically, so what, who cares? Why should you care? What would it matter? What’s the problem here as you see it?
Many 'newbie' posts sink without a trace - although they are probably the most in need of help and advice.
Please give facts and examples. Show one newbie post that hasn’t had a reply. This is your opinion isn’t it? This is your interpretation. Did you once post and not get many replies? Is there something you want to talk about and for some reason don’t feel that you can? Why not say what’s really on your mind? What’s really on your mind In friendship? You want to talk? You want to be accepted as a newbie? Go ahead! Talk to us.
It also seems to me that there are very, very many Narcissists actually posting here in the hope of 'validation' or 'supply'.
Oh
come on! Did you really expect to write that and not get some rebukes? That’s such an outrageous thing to say! Can you see that? There are some things we just think, and thinking is free and uncensored but heck, we don’t say them because we know we’re going to be very unpopular. That above is one of those things. Of course sometimes we say things like that just to start a disagreement because we might like heightened emotional exchanges, because
it’s all we know. Why did you say that?
I also think there are posters whose problems have nothing to do with 'Narcissism' and would be much better directed to other websites - such as child abuse, depression, anxiety etc.
My interpretation is that your view of the world is a bit limited, narrowly-focussed. Broaden out a bit. See that your observation above
doesn’t matter. If we had message boards limited to strictly defined problems, there’d be
one message board per person. Because we are all trapped inside our own world-views and we can never enter someone else’s brain to make sure they see things exactly the way we do. Hey, if you’ve been here for many months, where were you on the still-living-with-my-child’s-abuser issue we had a while back? Now that raised interesting questions to ponder. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, no worries.
I mean no harm but I think this needs to be addressed.
I think you’re being truthful when you say you mean no harm. But you have caused irritation (me) and maybe anger. So what were you trying to do?
You see, you think
‘this’ needs to be addressed. What is the ‘this’ that you see that needs addressing, exactly? It’s not clear to me. Maybe you think there are Ns here and they need to be banned? Maybe you think there are abused people here who should be sent elsewhere? But it’s not clear to me exactly what you want to happen. Do you want to tell us what you’re thinking? Because if you think and tell us more exactly what you are thinking – make it clearer and more precise – you’ll perhaps discover something interesting about yourself. Perhaps, I don’t know! I have no idea who you are, why you are here lurking and why you felt so strongly that you started this thread. Do you want to tell us more? Tell me more?
I'm very upset that you are annoyed with me. I thought I raised valid issues. I believed my thread raised issues that should be addressed.
If not - I apologise.
Nope, it’s no good apologising when you don’t know and don’t understand what you have done to upset people. Didn’t your mother do this to you, make noises that sound like an apology but aren’t at all? Mine did. Heck let’s bring up that great thread by Flower on apology! Come on, you’re not telling the truth and that’s a waste of everyone’s time here. If you can’t tell the truth, what are you doing here?
Wanna chat? Wanna connect? P
