Today, I went though a lot of papers, stuff from college, stuff from work in foreign countrys, old pictures and bills and so on.
I threw a lot of papers away. I collected the things between times, which I really loved (I kept the stuff) and times which are of none importance for me in my memory and I trashed that away. I also trashed old letters and pictures of my Ngrandmother away. Since she never admitted the abuse, I have received from my Nmother, well which she could not because she treated my mother, when she was child even worse then me, and my mother was left with a depression and now is kind of metall ill and N either, I had skipped contact with her a year ago. She died last month. I did not want to keep the letters and pictures, because I just felt that is would be not important for me anymore in my life. And really I do not remember any nice time with my Ngrandmother. There is nothing. She never attended my school or anything else like my mother. They both are very alike, just that my Ngrandmother was never depressed, she lived a wonderful life. She was like my mother never been there for me. Just got on a regular basis letters from her. For what I should keep them? They are as already said of none importance of me. I also trashed reminders and pictures of an old friend who became abusive last year and I had to skip contact either. After I did that, I felt kind of relieved and like I have space and room again. I had a good feeling, like well, I can continue to go on with my life.
I do not need the pictures, letters and so on for my present and future life anymore. I am convinced that if times were not happy or impressive, why should I keep memories of them? No, I will just keep memories of the times in my life which are meaningful for me.
One thought hit me tonight: Things are changing, aren't they? We continue to live, but maybe we change views, friends and places, furniture, clothes, haircuts and so on. And then they are the changes we do not have control of, like new developments, progessive things like the internet or a changing in society and the world, changing in thinking and so on. If we do not move on, things are stopping and suddenly everything is different, but we are stock.
It is so different, when in former times people kept all the pictures of their relatives and siblings on the wall and today, I just throw it away. I really see no sense why I should keep them.
Any thoughts on that?
Samantha