By the way, wasn't Phils poem a stroke of brilliance and compassion and understanding on the deepest level?
I will repost it because I love it so much, and it means a lot to me.
~Naomi
________________________________________
Do not hide from yourself
that which has hurt you.
This only gives your pain strength
Feel it fully
and pass through
That which you cherish
and cling to
will also change and depart
Feel it fully
and pass through
Commit without judgement,
without remorse or regret
Feel it fully
and pass through
As there is breath in every life
so is there life in every breath
Feel it fully
and pass through
When a way comes to an end,
change.
Having changed,
pass through
Step into the stream
neither you nor the stream
remain unchanged.
Having changed,
pass through