This is confusing. I see what you mean.
You did use the word "your words are harmful, all to purge your own selfish, cathartic need without concern for that consequence---" when you could have used " sometimes people's words, other's words-- etc.
You're right! I was adding to your statement. Ok..I'll reword it now, as you suggest.
"Sometimes people's words are harmful etc...."
My point is...having a voice does not give us free reign to say whatever we want to whomever we wish whenever the urge hits, even if we do so politely, if.......what we say causes harm or has clear potential to do so.
My opinion. Blunt and is clear and may be necessary sometimes. Polite and kind is clear and is often the most useful. Catch more flies with honey plan. My opinion again.
You also assumed a very negative motive and behavior to me via your personal wording, and name called to boot Wouldn't it make sense for me to view it as a projection?
Yes. I understand now, that you meant to say "people's" and in that case, so did I. I didn't assume you had a negative motive but rather a focus on self, without concern for another, although now I mean "people" could have that without concern for other "people". On the other hand, didn't you make the initial statement in a personal sense, in regard to your own personal idea and feelings?
Are we having fun yet??
I did actually feel bad afterwards for using the word "selfish" because I knew I was doing exactly as I was trying point out as being not the thing to do (being blunt and doing it as an example but at the same time....I knew it might produce the same outcome, which it seems it did, cause you harm, hurt your personal feelings, which I did not mean to do, and which I am sorry for--I'm sorry for calling you a name).
You know, when people project it is really hard for them to see it themselves. They'll fight tooth 'n nail on it I tell ya---
Agreed.
I relate to a point you are making with me.
I can relate to your relating to "a point" but not the one I was making.
Ok then. Have it your way.
Enjoy those wings (or alphalpha sprouts). Whichever voice gets to be boss.
I'm trying to make healthy food choices and doing a fair job lately.
So I can definately relate.