Hi Fresh,
Glad you get the gist of what I was trying to say.
I also, understand what you're trying to get across.
The sum of what we think on a particular thing can rarely be expressed in a single sentence extracted from the millions of words we speak. Maybe that's why four letter words are so popular. They often come nearer to expressing what we think on a point than a whole paragraph could.
PR
Bless hubs' clan for being civil. You mentioned denial. That, I believe, is huge in the situation with my sister. Her attitude and actions seem barbaric. It's a caricature, but I see her wrapped in animal skin wielding a club. At the same time, I love her. Edit in: I love her period - she's my sister. FOO is kind of like geography in that you don't have a choice about where you're born, nor do you have a choice about the family to whom you're born. I don't think my sister ever made a conscious choice for mean spiritedness to be her defining characteristic. It seems more like a left-handed legacy, perhaps one she denies is there or thinks is her lot in life. Either way, it's sad.