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Sela

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« Reply #555 on: November 24, 2005, 06:34:33 PM »
Hi Moira:

Your boss reminds me of one of those people who opens their mouth.......first
.........and then......maybe........later.........they 1/2 think about what they said.
 :D :D :D :D

She notices you drink a lot of coffee?  Makes me want to ask her:

"Have you nothing better to do than that?  Poor you."

But ofcourse.......I usually just think stuff like that.  I'm learning though....I like the idea of.......

bored, non-reaction.

.........looking at paper in hand and saying:  "Hmmmmmm?  Uh huh", with barely a nod in her direction.

Wonder if that would shut her up?????

Glad to hear your big kitty is better.   :D :D  He sounds like a wonderful guy!

Best of luck on your evaluation!  Glad your rep will be present.   Get specifics of any criticisms.

 :D Sela

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« Reply #556 on: December 08, 2005, 07:32:19 PM »
"All we are saying is give peace a chance"

John Lennon



25 years ago today he was shot and killed.



I like the idea of "Bagism" and "Bed ins".   :D

Brings back memories of teenhood and my favorite line, back then:

"I'm going to run away and join the peace movement".  :shock:

His messed up childhood/adolescence......seeing his father walk out on his mother, when John was just 5 years old and not long after, his mother deciding she was not able to look after him  ... "gave" him to her sister, his  "Aunt Mimi (and Uncle George)....probably was very painful.  His mom visited and kept in contact with him until she was killed in by a drunk driver when he was only 17.  He had to identify her body at the morgue.   Horrible, for a kid his age.

I wonder if and what kind of stuff he would have posted on a site like this? 

 Sela

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« Reply #557 on: December 08, 2005, 11:15:50 PM »
got almost all of the christmas shopping done.......i hate holidays, and birthdays, and people that cut you off when your trying to merge onto a freeway.  Other than that can't wait for the first snow-----yipee

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« Reply #558 on: December 09, 2005, 09:40:49 AM »
Hi Wally and Welcome:

Well now!!  That's what might be called........getting 'er done!!! :P

Not me.  I've been putting that whole shopping thing off.  I just am not into it this year.  I've got a few gifts but lot's more to find.  I just need to get into hunt mode......and I better hurry up!!

Yesterday evening, I did some decorating and that helped a little.

And the snow!!!  (First snow of the year??  hahahahahahaha!!  Not here!  My daughter and sister in law already built one 8 foot snow man and I've got a feeling it won't be the last.  Everything is white here this morning...including the air!!)  But the snow does help make it feel more like Christmas (to me).

 
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hate holidays, and birthdays, and people that cut you off when your trying to merge onto a freeway. 


I don't like the crowds, or really....crowded places...so that's why the procrastination about shopping (which doesn't make any sense because the longer I wait.....the bigger the crowds will get).  I think I might drive east of here, to a few of the small towns, and do my gift hunting there.  I'm sure the crowds will be smaller there.

Hmmmm.......birthdays and holidays eh?  What don't you like about them?

No need to ask that question about the cutter offers.  :x

I saw a cool show on TV once, where they were describing this prototype idea on how to decrease highway congestion and accident statistics.....

They talked of how these roads could be built.....with sort of magnets built into them (I think??) and each car would have a computer gadget that one programs their destination into.  The person drives the car to the beginning of the on ramp/entrance of the highway and then......get this......the computer takes over, the magnets switch on and the car drives itself....onto the highway and all along, until it gets to the off-ramp/exit destination the person programmed in.  There would be no congestion or accidents because speed, distance etc is all maintained at rates determined by the computer.  No congestion.  No accidents.

Just think......people could read, write poetry, nap.......hahahahahaha :mrgreen:...maybe knit a scarf.........whatever........instead of fighting traffic or merging with anything.  The computer controls the whole process...no speeding...no cutting off.....nothing!!

Then, once the vehicle reaches the destination off ramp, alarms and buzzers go off, vibrating seat, fans come on full blast, whatnot.....the driver is alerted....the car goes down the exit, the magnets turn off, the computer turns off and the driver takes over control of the machine again.  Doesn't do much for city traffic but it sounds like a cool idea for the highway..to me (plus it leaves police forces available to monitor city drivers more closely, which would also hopefully effect speeders etc).

Only problem.......same old problem.......always the problemo......

Moola.  It would cost zillions to fix all the highways up with these magnets or whatever they are.
Haven't heard a word about it since that show.  I thought it was really cool. 8)

I love people with such amazingly creative minds/imaginations.....who spend their time and energy trying to think up ways to improve things......like Benjamin Franklin.  That guy.....thinked up all kinds of cool stuff!

 :D :D  Sela

 

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« Reply #559 on: December 09, 2005, 10:18:16 AM »
Your funny Sela (in a fun sense),

Magnets huh? Wouldn't it be easier just to do the Star Trek transporter thing? just think............no cars, no traffic.  Sorry just being a dork.

Birthdays (actually just my own) are a non-event, and I mean non.  I just have never celebrated, perhaps because it never really mattered, I am sure it must have been from a few bad experiences with the ole growin up years.  I hate to blame someone else for my deficiencies, so I wont, but I do enjoy, and help to celebrate my children's, and wifes birthdays with fervor.  I guess I just want them to have what I didn't, but don't want sympathy for my weirdness.  I am not trying to fix this one because the other 364 days seem to evershadow the one and people forget just as quick so I'm content with it.

You lucky dog, I want snow!!!!! Oregon is mild climate, so we get only about 2-3 days a year if we are lucky.  We have the wet cold thing going just fine, but no snow.

I was a little extreme saying I don't like holidays, I do love things about the holidays, just not as much as some.

Gotta go wake of the youngins for school.


Thanks for your fun post Sela!
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« Reply #560 on: December 12, 2005, 08:58:49 PM »
Hiya Wally:

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Your funny Sela (in a fun sense),

Thanks.  "It's fun to be funny" (said The cat in the hat)

I'd rather laugh than cry, that's the way it is for me.  I do both but I like laughing a whole lot more.

Yes......maybe the magnets sound like a bit much and transporters are the way to go.  Anything that would relieve traffic and decrease or better yet, eliminate vehicle accidents would be lovely, wouldn't it?
Who knows?  Maybe some day. 8)

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Birthdays (actually just my own) are a non-event, and I mean non.  I just have never celebrated, perhaps because it never really mattered, I am sure it must have been from a few bad experiences with the ole growin up years.


I'm sorry that your birthdays were not celebrated as you grew up.  That is sad.  I'm sorry for that hurt.  That would give you a kind of........

.........I'm not valuable

feeling eh? 

Your birthday should be a day of celebrating you.  Parents are supposed to be happy on those days because they are supposed to remember and celebrate the joy they felt/still feel.......by being blessed with a son.

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I hate to blame someone else for my deficiencies, so I wont

I don't think you're blaming anyone for anything.  But it's clear to me that it would cause pain.....leave a lasting hurt......if I didn't celebrate my children's birthdays with glee.......and it seems you're doing that too....which is wonderful (celebrating your children's birthdays big time!!).  Good for you Wally!  Your kids will probably grow up feeling valuable and appreciated and like they've brought joy to your life.....because you're happy on their birthday and you celebrate.  They'll remember that, I bet.

I bet your wife feels loved and valued too because you celebrate her birthday too.  That's great stuff!!

What if.......the next time your birthday rolls around.........you value yourself (and say......poopoo to the wind of those who don't!!! :P).  You can celebrate being alive and being blessed with children and a beautiful wife!!!  Forget all those birthdays that weren't celebrated and start anew?  Decide what you'd like to do, or not do, and annouce:

"This is what I'd like to do/or not do on my birthday".

(hopefully......it will be something within reason.......like:  go bowling or to a movie or out for dinner...and a cake......rather than say.......fly to the alps or ride an elephant.....??)

Why not?  It's your day .....your's to enjoy.  You are a valuable person, Wally, and I bet your wife and kids would agree with me.  And your birthday does matter.

Ok...enough nagging.

You want some of our snow?  It's already freezing into huge lumps of ice, which it will snow on top of, in the next couple of days and be treacherous to walk/drive/crawl on.  Wish I could send you some really fluffy stuff (I'd gladly share!!).  I'm glad you get a little anyway.  As much as I'd hate to admit it........I'd miss it....if it didn't snow.  I do like how it sparkles and the way it sticks to my dog's noses.  Don't like driving in it much though. :shock:

Holidays are ok as long as they don't get us too stressed out eh?  Then, I think they aren't much of a holiday at all.  I hope your turn out good.

Thanks for posting Wally.  I'm glad you're here.

 :D Sela


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« Reply #561 on: December 12, 2005, 09:50:34 PM »
I like birthdays because they feel so personal. Just for my daughter and mother...well NMom considers EVERY day her birthday...but what I like is a chance to focus on one person, even myself, and think about the fact that they were born. It's like a chance to marvel...

Whereas for me, Christmas has just about been snuffed out. All I want is one candle lit, sacred music, and peace on earth. Nuff said. It's not so much Bah Humbug as it is ... STOP everybody. If this heralds love, then what's with the stress, which is anti-love? By the time anybody opens a present, someone is so exhuasted that they're numb. I do love seeing kids' thrill at it...but only the first few innocent times. Soon after, they're so often just numb little materialists obsessed with the arrival of STUFF. Not magic or holiness, or peace (or a prince thereof) but stuff. The music is sublime though. Handel's the man!

I've caved. I just don't shop. I buy amazon.com gift certificates and email them to Nbro's family, do get a few things for Mom (but also online)...and small things for my D's stocking. That's it, there's nobody else.

What a grinch am I,
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« Reply #562 on: December 14, 2005, 10:53:39 AM »
Sela, there you go being fun again.  When we get our two days of snow I pack up the 5 kids and we go find an open field, or usually parking lot.  My truck is fun in the snow and the kids scream with laughter, my wife just grips the door handle and tries to maintain.

Being kick off the computer by my oldest (homework).  There is a pain with my birthday that I am not confronting yet.  You have sparked my interest into trying to remember what happened way back when.  It just seems like when I even try to go there in my mind I hurt inside really bad, but I don't know why.  So I know at least the motivation to want to not celebrate, but I don't wreck it if the kids want to do something, and they always do.

hopalong I know where your going with the gift thing as far as going past the meaning.  My wife came from normal parents compared to me (lol), but they are truly wonderful.  They have a tradition of serving their children with charitable thoughts, and they are truly compassionate.  Our oldest (13) knows the deal (Santa) now of course, but she keeps the faith with instilling in the other children the magic.  To really think that Santa Claus really comes to your house and gifts appear in the morning where they were not the night before must be so thrilling and magical to a young innocent mind.  Our two oldest love to watch the three little ones experience this, and soon it will fade only to be recreated by them in their own families.

Heck, when it does fade I will go fishing in Alaska with my wife, and we can experience the thrill of landing a 40lb salmon.  Only time itself will tell our family when the right time to let loose, we will know.  But even now my wifes parents ask her what she wants from 2000 miles away.  They call her and the children with joyful tears of missing them.  I long for a family that will do that, and hopefully, thanks to the wonderful lady who married me we can become part of that charitable tradition that they make look so natural, and enticing.  They are such simple people that I now that is is true love.

We are dreaming of a white Christmas, haven't had one in the 8 years Ive been in the pacific Northwest.

Thanks Sela, and Hopalong

Wally
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« Reply #563 on: December 14, 2005, 11:40:58 AM »
I'm very sad right now.  My cousin has passed away.....very suddenly.   We were close for many years.

Trying to pack for the long drive in bad weather to her funeral.

All prayers needed for our safe trip there and back, please.

Sorry to all who have posted to me lately and that I won't be replying.  I know you will understand.

Death sucks....but I believe there is another life after this.

For that I am so grateful.  Still, for now, the grief is hard.

 :( Sela

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« Reply #564 on: December 14, 2005, 12:12:39 PM »
God bless Sela,

Remember, the sun is always shining above the dark and dreary clouds that can form in our lives, it always breaks and when the time is right the sun will warm us again.  You are hopeful in your grief, and I am sorry for your loss Sela.

Wally
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« Reply #565 on: December 14, 2005, 03:54:12 PM »
Sela- I'm so sorry about your cousin. You are in my prayers and I'll put in a protective charm with the snow goddess for your safety. i'm off this weekend to the Queen Charlotte islands here in B.C.- an absolutely stunning, magical and incredibly spiritual place. I'm planting some trees in a special place outside an abandoned Haida village only accessible by boat( am sailing over)- a ceremony I do as a celebration for people I've lost and I am planting one tree for several friends' losses and I will include your cousin among them. I also do a candle ceremony over winter solstice for the dead and again I will light one for your cousin. you are in my thoughts and prayers. Love Moira
I've just ended abusive relationship of 1 yr. with male narcissist. I cycle between stages of anger and grieving and have accepted it. Hope I've alienated him so he won't recontact me- is this possible?     Moira

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« Reply #566 on: December 14, 2005, 09:48:12 PM »
Sela,
I'm so sorry.
Be safe in your travels and kind to yourself in your grieving.

thoughts with you,
Hopalong
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« Reply #567 on: December 15, 2005, 11:27:57 AM »
((((((((((Sela))))))))))

Huge hugs sweetheart.  I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin.  You are in my thoughts and I wish you a safe journey.

Take care

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« Reply #568 on: December 15, 2005, 02:46:45 PM »
Sela,
I'm so sorry for your loss.  I wish you safe travels and an angel on your shoulder.

Hugs,

Brigid

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« Reply #569 on: December 15, 2005, 04:28:33 PM »
Hi all- don't mean to hijack this thread but have to vent a bit. Hope no one minds too much. I think I may explode!!! I think I may have elaborated here about ongoing shite at work with my N boss who is a nasty bully. I took a new job with a developing project four months ago only to discover this job wasn't really my cup of tea- and neither was the supervisor attached who didn't like the fact I have tattoos and a mental illness( I think I mentioned somewhere that my first interaction with this woman involved her cornering me for a " concerned chat" about my weight- thought I was anorexic- am naturally and have always been thin and she'd never laid eyes on my before!). Being in a union, my old job here was held for the three month probationary period. As I was obviously less than happy there- and the writing was clearly on the wall with that supervisor- I came back into this toxic environment. Much to my N boss' horror and dismay- not to mention, my own! She was livid that I was back and hauled me into her office within the first hour i was back in the building. She was immediately up my ass about all manner of gripes and grilled me on what my health was going to be like this winter( my sick time has always been an issue with her) and started to yell at me for allegedly leaving my former case load in disarray!!1 When I left her underling in charge sat down with me and went over my case load and everything was gonen over with a fine tooth comb and laid to rest. I walked out of her office and told her i wouldn't speak to her again about any of this without my union rep present. she continued to harass and bully me publicly and privately on a daily basis for the last month and a half. I have documented everything and forwarded to my rep. She is freaking out because she gave my job to a collegue and i threw a huge fly into the ointment by returning to my job. She had no right to hire anyone into my job until the probationalry period was over. Now she's scrambling to find some dirt on me and to make it stick so she can get rid of me- or at least prove I'm not competent at my job- in order to keep her golden haired yes boy in my job.I've been waiting for her to make her big move and sure enough, last Friday she did. She way laid me the end of the day and told me she had to meet with me and human resources next week to " discuss serious performance concerns". Right!!!! I've been with this organization 15 years, 7 of them with this particular team and have never had anything other than excellent job evaluations and relations with collegues and my clients.( This N boss is new- only been here a year). This woman has berated me, accused me of lying, screwing up etc daily and is in my face and behind my back daily. I feel like I'm losing my mind. She knows i have a major mental illness- ironically I'm a nurse working in community mental health- and she uses this to basically torture me. I applied for another job out of this organization last week and she found out about it from one of the secretaries who did a covering letter for me- she got ratted out by someone else in this snake pit. sick office politics! Now, all of a sudden without ever once hinting she's had any concerns at  all about me, she allegedly has such serious concerns she needs to involve human resources etc. Strangely I have no anxiety about the outcome of this meeting as I know i've done nothing to merit any punishment or repurcussions but I'm incensed that I'm being bullied and accused of lying etc. interestingly, I've caught her in several lies and have them documented and easily proved . She has no conscience at all. And she is really enjoying bullying me and hoping I'll snap. Human resources is going to back her up because they supported her decision to essentially give my job away to someone they had no right to- so they have major egg of their faces too. Plus, I've taken them on in the past and successfully filed several grievances against them for other bullshit they've tried to pull. so, I'm not exactly a popular person in their eyes. This boss has told me to my face that she doesn't think I have any business working as a nurse in mental health as i myself am bipolar!!!!! Unbelievable and a wee bit ironic don't you think?! I just found out today that this bullshit evlauation meeting is now postponed till ? Jan. 19th as my rep is away and I'm off on holiday Dec 22-Jan11th. I'm hoping I will at the very least have a job interview lined up in hospital when I come back to work as I then don't have to participate in any evlauation as I'll be leaving the community. I can then take my personnel file with me. I'm also planning on giving an inservice before I exit on bullying in the workplace and how to do a proper evaluation and review suing a union for my collegues' benefits. I am launching a harassment grievance against this boss this afternoon as well. Sorry- just had to vent. Thanks for listening. amazing how all this shit takes me right back to feeling like I'm being tortured by my N mother all over again. Moira
I've just ended abusive relationship of 1 yr. with male narcissist. I cycle between stages of anger and grieving and have accepted it. Hope I've alienated him so he won't recontact me- is this possible?     Moira