Dreams anyone?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone,
OK, I guess I didn't use very careful language in my post about 'big you know what issues'.

I didn't mean to say anyone else should not express their opinions and you guys are probably right about doing it in a thread like this.

My concern is for, say a thread that starts out "My N boyfriend knocked my teeth out last night" and by page two we're debating the merits of nationalized dental care, meanwhile miss smashmouth is wondering why nobody's helping her look for her teeth.

But, I'm still letting the oxygen stream through my fine red gills on this one. Guess I'll surface when I get hungry for some canadian frog legs.

Now on Bob and Doug McKenzie, I doubt they have a bigger fan down here in the great muddy south. Maybe I'll pop over to the "anything' thread and have a look, eh? Coo coo coo coo coo coo coo coo.

October,
Wow, I'm sorry you have such intense dreams. Cuddling with daughters helps just about any problem though, huh?
((((October)))))
Makes me glad I can't remember my dreams.

mudpup

[October]

Cuddling with daughters helps just about any problem though, huh?
((((October)))))

mudpup

I think so.  Anyway, she has a telly in her room, and I don't.  So we watched Friends together.  And then I got her breakfast in bed, as a 'thank you' for the cuddle.  

[Anonymous]

Mudpuppy, brother,

still laughing......                  

Snicker, snicker, snicker!!!

I get it.  Alrighty then............nobody's helping her look for her teeth eH?

Heeeheeeheeeeheeeheee! Hahahahahahaha!!    

I can't read any more!!!! (Snort!!!)  My tummy hurts now!    

GFN

[Anonymous]

...when I get hungry for some canadian frog legs.

I ope yew hno dare irr summ caannayydeean frensh peepole oo mide nod tink yew shuud eadd dose!

Coo coo coo coo coo coo coo coo.

Misquoted 'em eh?

Correction:  Coo roo coo coo coo coo coo coo!

I'm truly sorry (heeheehee).  Couldn't resist!

         

Sweet sweet dreams all!!

GFN
GFN

[vunil as guest]

Another twist to the not studying dream, is having to teach a class I'm not prepared for

I have that one!  It's hilarious-- at some point I shifted from student dreams (don't know where my classes are, didn't study for the test, etc) to the exact same friggin' dreams as a teacher!  Now I dream I didn't prepare the lecture or that I didn't make up the test.  The other night I dreamed that a woman who was officially something-or-other was sitting in on my class and kept interrupting everything I said to make clear I was wrong!  So how's that for a nice anxiety/voicelessness combo?

Last night I dreamed that my grandmother came back (she has been gone for 3 years) and it wasn't spooky at all and she was really there (not a ghost)-- we were all going to meet for Easter.  My whole family was there and the family that owns my grandparents' house let us have it for the weekend.  Ok, so it's time for church and my mom refuses to go to my grandmother's church even though my grandmother wants to say hi to her friends and see her church again.  My mom wants to go to a different church that she read about because they are having a really great sermon on how to arrange living room furniture.

My subconscious is so weird....  And my mom has N tendencies but would never behave that badly.

[October]

Ok, so it's time for church and my mom refuses to go to my grandmother's church even though my grandmother wants to say hi to her friends and see her church again.  My mom wants to go to a different church that she read about because they are having a really great sermon on how to arrange living room furniture.

My subconscious is so weird....  And my mom has N tendencies but would never behave that badly.

Who says she is behaving badly?  

Maybe this is a reflection of your mother's invisibility to her family.  If she wants to rearrange the furniture in her house, that could be a metaphor for reassessing and sorting out her own life, which is not possible because her mother is/was focussed on her friends and church, rather than her daughter, and her daughter's need to learn.

Just a thought.

[October]

OK, had dream suitable for sharing last night; (no violent road accidents).  I was a student, back at University, and was moving into a new room, which was a shared room, with one other girl.  She had the bed next to the radiator, and mine was under the window.  I was trying to study some Maths (I didn't do Maths!!) and I had the normal dream worries about not managing to do all the work, and being behind with course work. but at the same time I was working, and getting on with it all, but I was very cold.  There was a terrible draught, and when I looked the window was all broken, and the wind was coming in, and the rain sometimes came in too.  I tried to fix it, but it was too badly broken.

Then I remembered that I have a small heater at home (which I do now, but didn't when I was a student.) and that I ought to have brought it with me, and made a note to bring it next time I went home.

It is very normal for me to have this kind of dream.  Very often there is a building of some kind.  Usually the roof needs repairing, but this time it was the window.  I think this is about not being protected.  Not safe.  It is also indicative of trying to solve problems, and not always being able to.  But at least I keep trying.

Also, I tried to say hello to the other girl in the room, but she didn't hear me for some time; she was too absorbed in her own affairs.  I had to try three or four times before she noticed that I was there.  That is not so familiar from dreams, but very common in reality.  

[vunil as guest]

Wow, October, that dream sounds really similar to the type of dream we were discussing awhile ago where you are trying to fix things and whoever is there won't help/won't listen/doesn't hear you, etc.  I have that kind of dream all of the time.

I think it's  a reflection (in my case!) of having N parents who both didn't nurture me and needed me to be their parent.  

As for the furniture, alas, I think it was more of a reflection of my parents' interest in things and appearances above people and feelings.  I mean, if grandma comes back from the dead just for easter it's probably good to let her do whatever she wants  On the other hand it could have something to do with my wanting to move away from my family a bit and figure out what I want away from them, in which case your furniture idea does make sense-- sort of the two sides of me arguing with each other.  Heaven knows (pun intended) we weren't crazy about my grandmother's church-- very fire and brimstone.  I myself would rather go to a lecture about furniture than that!  But I feel guilty saying it, which is where ghost-grandma come in,  I guess.

wow, thanks....

[Anonymous]

Good morning all:

Vunil:  Your dreams make me giggle!!     Weird like mine!

Am I wearing off on you??

The other night I dreamed that a woman who was officially something-or-other was sitting in on my class and kept interrupting everything I said to make clear I was wrong! So how's that for a nice anxiety/voicelessness combo?

Maybe this dream is work related?  I recall you mentioning a lot of Nish at work who were tough to take.  Are they stifling your voice and causing you anxiety?

GFN

[Anonymous]

OK, had dream suitable for sharing last night; (no violent road accidents). I was a student, back at University, and was moving into a new room, which was a shared room, with one other girl. She had the bed next to the radiator, and mine was under the window. I was trying to study some Maths (I didn't do Maths!!) and I had the normal dream worries about not managing to do all the work, and being behind with course work. but at the same time I was working, and getting on with it all, but I was very cold. There was a terrible draught, and when I looked the window was all broken, and the wind was coming in, and the rain sometimes came in too. I tried to fix it, but it was too badly broken.

Then I remembered that I have a small heater at home (which I do now, but didn't when I was a student.) and that I ought to have brought it with me, and made a note to bring it next time I went home.

Hi October:

This is like what might be called a relief dream.  You had this awful dream the other night, which was so upsetting and this one comes along as a kind of relief???  Maybe you think part of you is broken (the window) but you know deep down inside that there is a way to fix that (with your heater)??  The wind and rain might be coming in now but there is hope for the future.

This seems like a dream full of hope.  (((((October)))))

GFN

PS:
It seems like your math might be your healing??  Maybe you think you're behind a little in healing...but managing?  But some people aren't listening and expecting more progress??? (or person, the one by the radiator, who is warm)?

[Anonymous]

Well....here's mine from last night.

I was in my kitchen, poking my head out of the sliding glass door and speaking to my current mother in law (mil).  She was sitting on the deck and I kept telling her:  (and I don't know how to spell this)

"There's a chinchilla under your chair!"

She kept looking for it but every time she looked to one side, it ran to the other side of her chair, or underneath the chair.

I kept saying:  "Look!  Look!  It's sooooo cute!  A chinchilla under your chair!!"

But she just wasn't fast enough to see it.  We were both laughing and enjoying ourselves, so I felt good when I woke up.

GFN

[2cents]

Hey October,

This sounds like a recurring dream, which I've understood to mean your subconscious is working through deep issues.

Here's my 2 cents:

Even though you're cold you're still doing the work, which is what it sounds like you are doing in your real life.

About the heater, maybe it means you have tools now at your disposal in the present moment to help you work towards healing wounds which ocurred in the past. You may not be able to fix the window, but you still have resources to make yourself comfortable.

The fact that the window is broken instead of the roof may mean that you've resolved something and are now moving on to another place that needs attention.

As for why the other girl wouldn't respond: maybe she's like the people you meet in your real life who don't hear you? Or maybe she's yourself, and she's not responding cause you're not calling her loud enough?

Glad you're feeling better today,

Take care,

2cents

[mum as guest]

Man, a lot of stuff happens on some threads in a day!
I had to share this one from last night:  instead of a horse or dog I have neglected......I had a baby, and left it in the hospital and only saw it a few times since it was born (it was a week or so old, I think).  My ex and I were still married,  but badly so( reality peeked in) and he didn't even acknowledge that I had the baby.  It was AWFUL.  The most awful part, was that I realized what I had done/wasn't doing, and alternately felt terrible about it with thinking of the poor baby with no one to bond to, and then felt totally ambivelent, like "Oh, I guess I should go claim that baby when I pick up the drycleaning"....
My current real life situation could explain a bit:  my ex could care less about our kids, really.  His purpose in life, it would seem, is to be comfortable himself, and punish me (the one person who ever called him on his bad behavoir).  His latest legal attacks (there are a ton right now, I just don't care to give them any more energy by spelling them out on this board) to reduce child support, to adjust/not adjust visitation, etc, ad nauseum,  NEVER mention how the kids feel or would feel....always just what is fair or unfair to HIM!!!  This children and me being voiceless in the courts and in his ears put him in a position of percieved power.

[Brigid]

Mum,
I have had that same dream many times of leaving a baby neglected and being angry with myself in the dream for not taking care of it, but not knowing how to change my behavior.

If I had been smart, I would have been analyzing my dreams more carefully over the years.  My subconscious saw many things that I did not.

Thanks for jogging my memory.

Brigid

[d's mom]

i love the chinchilla dream.. !!  it just sounds fun.

id like to share 2 dreams from this week, one that shows that 'abandoned creature/baby' thing pretty well...

we have a pet chicken. when i dream of the chicken lots of times im dreaming about my daughter, but doing it in a less 'painful' way. so i dreamed that my family had a fire, and was trying to barbecue our chicken. the chicken was looking at me begging me to take her out of the fire. but my family was insisting that i put her in the fire. they wanted to 'eat' her.

i had no choice, and the chicken trusted me, and allowed herself to be in the fire. i wanted soooooooo badly to take her out of that fire. but becuase of the family pressure, i was unable to, and had to 'pretend' the fire was ok... and she trusted me.. and allowed herself to be burned.... of course this is about my daughter trusting me, to stay with the family, when really, i want to get her OUT!!!!

thats a very representative 'animal' dream.

that was sad but the other dream, was  funny...  i dreamed i was on the donald trump show 'the apprentice'. it was my week to do the big project and my assignment was to bake two 'fortune cookies' for donald and his wife malania. i also had to bake them a cake, and ONE OTHER THING that i forgot! after they left, i realized that i forgot the third thing, and i was screwed. i also realized i forgot to ask what kind of cake they liked.

so i was alone in their amazing gold-plated apartment with everything you could possibly want to bake with, and i knew i could totally do it...... i know how to bake fortune cookies and thought that was a lucky skill.. i was thinking of all these different amazing cakes i could make to impress them. but kept kicking myself for forgetting to ask what kind of cake they *liked*.......

they had trays of donuts all around and i was hungry and ate some of the donuts. (i dream about donuts a lot too. they repressent treats or self-care.  these ones were stale.) then i got a message from donald trump.

he was telling me that i had left donut crumbs in the hallway.. he called the crumbs  'unresolved issues'. :}}>  i was expected to clean up the crumbs (issues) before i could continue with the task. there was just a few crumbs, and the place was stocked with cleaning stuff, so i knew i could do it easily.

then he was telling me he was reading everything i had written on the internet (i was kind of offended at that) and that in a couple of years i would know that being destroyed was part of the game and i would have to adjust to my place. he was trying to be 'fatherly' in some weird way. (maybe trump is representing my rich daddy... hm) but i was pissed becuase he was acting so cavalier about me getting 'destroyed' as if what i wanted just didnt matter.

then i woke up. ordinarily that wouldnt be a standout dream but it was interesting for him to refer to the crumbs as 'unresolved issues', specially after what weve all been talking about.