Comments non-N's say

[d'smom]

Stay focused on what you want, not what you don't want.  I think my NOT doing that made a difference in my case....and I lost.  At one point I got overwhelmed and so upset that no one was noticing how abusive my ex had been and how TIRED I was of dealing with this.....how I was not going to be intimidated by him any more....ooooh boy.  That may have blown it for me.  My (inexperienced) attorneys at the time told me: that's good:righteous indignation and all....methinks they did not know what they were talking about!

you sound like you will kick some butt this time!  women should get an oscar or an emmy or something, for getting through -this- emotional briar patch.

Probably because most people don't want to deal with someone who is upset!!  

that may be true .. but i still think its crap!!!! in other areas of legal pursuit lawyers are trained to understand and predict human nature - as is. in certain situations, reasonable humans will understandably become upset.  you would figiure they would understand and predict the human nature of people in these situations, -just- a little more humanely. (but they dont so we have to act againts all human nature)

YOU WILL GET IT>
repeat that always to yourself.  TRAIN yourself to win.  

Do I sound like I am trying to Psych myself up? I am.  I head to court this week.  I am in a totally different frame of mind than the last time I went to court.  I am looking forward to it in a way.  "bring it on Sparky!!!"

im a big fan of mental discipline boy.

i have this vision of you like rocky doing jumpropes and stuff. go go go!!

[longtire]

OR, I agree with mum and others here to concentrate on what you DO want.  You should be prepared and use all evidence and facts at your disposal.  Still, I think that believing that you will GET what you want is the most important step.  Expect that the judge will see the truth and believe you.  Expect that your lawyer will do his or her best to get you what you want.  (Fire them and get another if they do not.)  Expect the court reporter to be sympathetic to you.  Expect the bailiff to be kind to you.  I believe that going in with this attitude, that these people are there to help you get what is best will actually help you more than going in with any fear and doubt.  Protect yourself, be assertive, be proactive, but also be confident and peaceful that you WILL get what you want.  We are all pulling for you here.

Also, go ahead and give the court all the relevant facts you have.  The court likes facts, they make it easier to make a decision.  The court doesn't like hearsay, it makes it harder to make a decision.  Help make this decision as easy as possible for the court and the judge will be more likely to decide in your favor.

[Anonymous]

OR:

Have not posted lately because I have been so swamped and am now just getting caught up again.  See that things are progressing.  The paper work in these cases are such a hassle, but you are handling things wonderfully.

I agree with the others who have posted, just stick to the facts and  you have plenty of paperwork to back that up.  

I hope you and your D are doing well in your new living enviornment and the job is going well.  You might have to pay for half of the trip for your D back to CA, but just make sure you have all the paperwork in place if  he refuses to let her come back.

What a nark.........he is focused on his radio station.  He reminds me of my father when I was in summer school during college.  He demanded that I come home every weekend, it did not matter that it was a hardship on me.  It interfered with my studies.  Of course he did not offer to come and get me.  I had to ride the bus.   Same can be said of this.  The  hardship this places on  your daughter?  Just so long as he gets what he wants.

Just keep on keeping on
Patz