borderline questions

[promqueencasualty]

Good morning, everybody---

I didn't want to hijack Newbie's thread(Nparents and control), but as I responded to Newbie's post, I had a question of my own:

I haven't been visiting this board for very long, but recently I have noticed discussions about borderline personality. After reading some of the posts, I have begun to wonder if my Nmother and Nsister might not also be B's, too("B" being "borderline," but I assure you, the other "B" word applies to them, too). Do any of you know of any books out there that could point me in the right direction re:educating myself about borderline personality?

I have read a whole library's worth of books about NPD, and I can tell you that my mother and sister's mug shots should be on each cover(they're "textbook cases"). But all of this discussion about Bpeople really has me wondering.

Any of your suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much!

PQC

[Jaded911]

I don't have any suggestions for books, however have a couple of great websites that I use for school.

http://www.fortunecity.com/campus/psychology/781/bpd-dsm.htm

[vunil as guest]

Hi, Portia--

A classic book on borderline is called "Stop Walking on Eggshells."  I'm reading it now and it's really good.

[P]

Hey Vunil, 'twas PQC not me  but it's as good for me, coz I have that book to buy too so.......thanks for the reminder. Coincidence? take care Portia

[vunil as guest]

Yes!  I was hearing secret ESP messages telling me you wanted the advice...

Sorry....  I am going to have to continually plead pregnancy-brain.

[longtire]

PQC, I second "Stop Walking on Eggshells."  I am reading that one now as well.  I also have "I Hate You - Don't Leave Me," but I haven't read it yet.  Another book I have found very helpful is "Boundaries" by Cloud & Townsend.  This is more about what you can do to preserve your boundaries, which is critical around people with BoPD or NPD behavior.

[promqueencasualty]

Thank you VERY much, everyone, for all of your helpful input. I look forward to checking out the books and sites you suggested. I feel so fortunate to have found this message board(and all of the kind and caring people whose thoughts fill these posts)! I hope that you all enjoy your weekend.

PQC

[October]

I have read a whole library's worth of books about NPD, and I can tell you that my mother and sister's mug shots should be on each cover(they're "textbook cases"). But all of this discussion about Bpeople really has me wondering.

PQC

Sorry, I am not well up on borderline myself, but I love your comment about the covers!!!!  What a good idea!!!!!!!  Must cut out a few family piccies and stick them on some of my books.