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acapella and the other n-partners
hope2003:
Yes echo: you recommended that we come here. The least that Sandahl could have done was to leave up your thread so that those who wanted to leave, or those that she kicked off could get support. Instead she pulled out our life line. I was getting a lot of support. She silenced me, Mindy and you, and then manipulated the situation with posts to help her get sympathy.
I will not beg to come back. She owes me an apology. I am sorry if I touched on any soft spots because I never want to hurt somebody, but I am not going to enable her.
Jaded911:
The more I think about Sands behavior, the more I know I was right about her acting in a N manner. I also know this, I will be damned if I will apologise for saying so. I did that over and over and over with my N to calm a situation. Looking back to those times, I apologized for something that he did or said, no more. I am woman enough to accept responsibility for my actions, but I will be damned if I will be a woman who accepts responsibility for others actions. I do not always have to be right, but everything Sand did screams how desperate she is to always feel she is right. IMHO, she sucker punched and ran just as my xN did. If you look back to some of her post, she clearly demonstrates that she feels her word to be the gospil truth. She might possess alot of knowledge about NPD, but I do not recall her mentioning she has a PHD in psychology. I stand by what I said, and guess what, if she doesn't like what I had to say, then prove me wrong. Help me see that I am wrong, I welcome challenges. The only thing I think she did was to prove me right.
hope2003:
I agree and that was the point I kept trying to make to Sandahl both on the board and privately.
I will share our exchanges with anyone who sends me a private message and they can judge for themselves.
I know that some of you N partners are reading this, and nobody is going to bat for us.
Sandahl has created fear.
hope2003:
Jaded, I can't find fault in you, and the fact that she erased her own thread where she demands that the discussion stop now speaks volumes about her guilt. I would love for the other partners to be able to review everything that happened.
Maybe you guys should start a new thread with copies of some of the deleted posts. I have a copy of my original thread, but that is it. then the Npartners who lurk here can check it out.
Acappella:
--- Quote ---I will share our exchanges with anyone who sends me a private message and they can judge for themselves.
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DITTO
--- Quote ---I know that some of you N partners are reading this, and nobody is going to bat for us.
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NOR THEMSELVES REALLY.
--- Quote ---Sandahl has created fear.
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She didn't create those who give into it. She is a great harvester of the fear that is there. And she is planting more seeds. IT IS MORE CLEAR NOW WHO IS MORE FRIGHTENED OF FEAR THAN WHO, IN THIS CASE AT LEAST. "We have nothing to fear but fear its self...." So, so true. Fear is a teacher not a preacher, an indicator not a harbinger ...if she/we fear it, run from it how can we learn from it? I am getting courage from this incident.
I am learning that to feel really safe with people I need to choose folks with the sort of integrity and courage and confidence being demonstrated in response to this event by you folks here in this thread. You are well named HOPE.
Arrg. THis is exhausting!
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