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Facing the monster
Healing&Hopeful:
((((((((((((Cadbury)))))))))))) hon.... I feel so proud of you. It is so difficult to change techniques and very easy to fall into the old ways, I don't mean by going back to him, I mean that if anyone else had bought you chocs you'd happily accept, so I feel this is such a great achievement, being able to see him for what he is, and respond in a way that suits you.
His maths comment made me laugh. How dare you be better at Maths than him, what were you thinking!!! lol
Well done as well for working the suitation to suit you with A and the bathroom. So it's a little bit naughty, but sometimes we have to do this kind of this to protect ourselves and to protect our children.
Take care
H&H xx
Sela:
Cadbury, way to go!
I think you did a marvelous job of this visit and you will only get better at it. Ok .....just for fun....a creative recap:
TH: Blah blah blah
Cadbury: Hmmmm.......unhuh
TH: Sorry, blah blah blah, sorry, sort of, blah blah blah blah
Cadbury: unhuh? hmmmm. pardon? What? yeah right.
TH: I have a present for you.......chocolate.
Cadbury: Hmmm. What? oh....I don't do chocolate anymore. Stick it where the sun don't shine.
TH: blah blah blah
Cadbury: unhuh. hmmmmmmmm. yeah right.
TH: random odd nish blah blah blah
Cadbury: Huh? hmmmmm. yeah right.
TH: (looking over C's shoulder at math work) "I understand that.. ha now that surprises you doesn't it?!"
Cadbury: Quite a bit. Explain it.
TH: (thinks: dummm dee dumm dumm......phooey)...." (says nothing) "
Cadbury: Yep, you're a rocket scientist alright. Unhuh. Hmmmmmm.
TH: "How does it feel to be so much better at maths than me?"
Cadbury: "It feels wonderful! I love it!! I'm waaaaaaaaay better at soooooo many things than you are! Eat your sick little heart out......TH....now where was I......oh yes.......hmmmmmmmmmm"
TH: (looking at 6 month old A and speaking) "Look at you - you put everything in your mouth! Just like your mother", dirty tone, leery look.
Cadbury: (Maybe thought: Hey A! Don't worry about what TH is trying to feed you. It's not what goes in your mouth that matters. It's what comes out!) but says: Hmmmmmmmmmmm I'm off to the ladies room now as I really feel the need to purge!
A: whah whah whah whah whah whah whah whah whah whah whah whah whah whah whah........
TH: :shock: :? :roll: :?
Cabury: (secretly) :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
Yesssssssss...........I think you did a marvelous job! Very well done! Glad you were thinking about what others here would like to say to TH.....and smiling on the inside. Wonderful!!
It just seems like he's trying soooooooooooooooooo desparately to get some control.......to trip you up....to shock you.......to get you to react. You did a fantastic job of not giving him that!! And his disgusting comment makes me want to hurl!! Good for you for ignoring it!
Re: Sleeping through the night. I remember that!!!
:D Sela
Plucky:
Cadbury,
you did great! you
1. rejected his 'unsanitary' gift to A
2. rejected his 'romantic' gift to you
3. made the baby reject him
4. made sure his intelligence and integrity were in question re the maths problem
5. said nothing really to engage at all
6. cut the visit short
7. Ignored his leer
8. took notes
I hereby award you a diploma from the No Supply University.
Yay!
Plucky
miss piggy:
Cadbury,
You ROCK!
Gosh, he did his absolute best to try and hook you and none of it worked. Awesome!! And the bathroom break was brilliant.
:D MP
Plucky:
Ps He's sleeping thru the nite already? What a GENIUS! Brilliant for you! I know exactly what you mean by 'new woman'. Wait until you can take a shower anytime you want. Woo-hoo!
Plucky
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