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seasons

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One of my N's
« on: December 15, 2005, 12:16:50 AM »
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Re: One of my N's
« Reply #1 on: December 15, 2005, 08:47:28 AM »

I'm jealous of her youngest daughter. She is a sweet girl, and she had the strength to get away.

I wish I came sooner, I suffered by my own doing. Thank you immensely-seasons


Hiya Seasons

You have the same strength... you have the same power to get away if you want to.  Why do you have to tollerate her behaviour?  Maybe something for you to ponder.

Take care

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Re: One of my N's
« Reply #2 on: December 16, 2005, 01:26:44 AM »
Hi Seasons,
this happens to all of us survivors of Ns.  We all go back more times than we should, long after we ought to know better, for that last bit of abuse.  We then berate ourselves because it was our fault.

Well it is not your fault.  She is the N.  She is wrong.

You are still further along than you have been before.  Before you knew about Ns.  Before you could recognise and describe the behaviour.  Now you just need to sync up your feelings and habits and then you will be home free.

You will change, and the N will not.  You will know her, and be free.  She will still be able only to relate in destructive ways.

You will be ok.  Now forgive yourself and move on.
Plucky