court tommorrow

[movinon]

Just wanted to share that I have a hearing tommorrow for TRO and visitation.  I'm feeling VERY nervous as I have never been in court.      My 18 yo D will be there to testify about the violence and emotional abuse as well as my 1st exh who can testify that this never happened in our 14 years of being together (and it helps that we get along so well).

My lawyer sent a proposal to counter their's asking for his RECENT pay stub (they sent us last year's and he's gotten 2 raises since then asking for a REDUCTION in cs), the return of the motorcycle, my agreement to move to my county and contiguos counties, and supervised visitation in the SAFE program.  All his lawyer sent back was that they declined the offer.  Seemed to me like there were a LOT of offers in there.  So, they're opposed to EVERYTHING.  For 9 years I have driven 8 hours every other weekend to allow my 1st exh visitation and this JERK wants to restrict me from leaving the COUNTY - heck, he's the one that insisted we move 4 hours away (good old batterer technique of isolation).

I'm thinking this won't look very good to the judge that they didn't even bother to send a counter-offer.  I guess I worry that he will come up w/ some wonderful story about why he has not seen or returned his d's phone calls - would his sttny REALLY tell him to have NO CONTACT w/ his 6 yo d?...even w/ a CPS investigation?

Just getting it all out there.  I figured it might ease some tension instead of keeping it in and you guys are so good at sharing your experiences w/ similar situations.

Movinon

Just another quick vent, he is sending his GF to do the women's work that I help lead (it's international) 
Well, at least if my D has to have contact, she'll have SOME recovery. 
 
 

[mudpuppy]

I have found the time leading up to court somewhat nerve wracking but once you're in there it becomes much easier because you are focused on what is going on and being said. You will do fine.
 If you have a good judge his declining to even discuss any type of settlement will be very instructive for the judge and go a long way toward showing him or her who is behaving in the interests of the child and who isn't.

Let us know how it goes.

mudpup

[mia]

GOOD LUCK!!!
I know exactly what you are going through.  Sending you good vibes, prayers, positive thoughts.......for your day in court.

Keep us posted.

[Hopalong]

MO,
You are STRONG and his case sounds as weak as his character.

Have faith, be calm, and breeeaaaattttthhhhhhhe....

You've done your work and you know your strength.
We do, too!

Hops

[write]

good luck. Take a lot of deep breaths, breathing is the key to managing anxiety and panic.

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[Portia]

Good luck Movinon
 
Stay calm and look in control even if you don’t feel it. Presentation is sometimes everything. (((((Movinon)))))

[Healing&Hopeful]

Good luck.... thinking of you.

H&H xx

[Alex]

havó a nice day !

[Hopalong]

Hi MO,
I know zip about court but I think just going there makes people feel tense and guilty.

Trying to imagine if it were me, I might soothe myself by repeating to myself, "This is just a room, in a building. These are people, dressed in clothes, doing different jobs. My job here is just to ____."

I wish you the very best of luck today.

(((MO)))

[MarisaML]

Keep in mind this is what you've always wanted (I'm assuming).  For your abuser to be held accountable and to let the world know what he is.

Do try to 'act' as calm and collected as you can even though you probably won't feel like it.  People tend to react better to that.  I don't understand why, but people don't respond as well to emotional hysterical women.  But I'm not saying that is what you are.  Just in case. 

Just try to focus on what you want and need from this and that it will all be worth it when it's over.  Good Luck and keep positive.

[Portia]

Okay:

sorry Hops and Marisa and Movinon, I wish I’d said this earlier and stalled any misunderstandings …. (hey I’m taking responsibility for something that just ain’t mine, as usual! )

Alex, hello, why did you post here on this thread and push it up to the top of the board?

It’s an out-of-date thread. Movinon has posted a new thread since this.

Now Hops and Marisa might feel  for not noticing the dates on this thread! No need to if you do. If you don't, good.

Oh for goodness sake. I wish I wasn’t a compulsive tidier upper. 

[MarisaML]

LOL, Portia.  No problem.  It seems like this is the least of my problems.  I'm just not that good at paying attention to the details.  But ty for clearing it up.   

[Portia]

  thanks Marisa

the number of times I've replied to posts and then noticed the dates are way out! Many times.

[Hopalong]

Dates, what dates?

 

Hops