Author Topic: How do you disassociate yourself from feeling like a failure?  (Read 8687 times)

ANewSheriff

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Re: How do you disassociate yourself from feeling like a failure?
« Reply #30 on: April 11, 2006, 08:41:35 AM »
Pennyplant:
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I look all around me and see people behaving in terrible or ridiculous ways and I notice they don't seem to think they need to change or accomodate others.

Oh, you got my blood pressure up reading this.  This is exactly where I have been for several months.  I do not know if it is an age thing or I am just simply sick and tired of excusing the inexcusable.  But, I have had a belly full of bad behavior and am on sort of a mission these days to address it.

I have had this conversation about "trying so hard" with several friends and it seems that this is becoming a very common thread for all of us.  Again, it could be an age issue.  Still, I subscribe to the notion that ignored behavior is taught behavior.

Oprah Winfrey often says that we teach people how to treat us.  Many of us are dropping old curriculums and adopting new ones.  Yowsa!  Hope the class had their oatmeal today!!!

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Re: How do you disassociate yourself from feeling like a failure?
« Reply #31 on: April 11, 2006, 11:14:49 PM »
Sela,  thank you for wanting to hear me out and for wanting to understand where I am coming from.  I believe you are as wonderful a person in real life as you are in cyber life.  I can hear your sincerity behind your words.  And I just want you to know that I take it to heart.  If I'm not answering your questions, i'm not trying to evade them or don't care to address them.  I'm just very limited in free time for a little while.  Please don't apologize for the suggestions you've made for me.  I see that as a very caring act that you did for me.  You showed you cared in your way with your unique style and approach to my post.  Thanks.  There was no way for you to know how I want to be heard iif I didn't let you know, right?  I did sound inconsistent with my posts, didn't I?  One minute I'm asking for suggestions or the likes and the next minute I'm saying back off with your suggestions.    That does sound very inconsistent of me, confusing, and maybe unfair to people who gave what I had asked for.  It can even turn people off.  Thank you for hanging it there with me, Sela.  I am paradoxical in nature.  I think we are all paradoxical in one way or the other. 

Pennyplant, I hear what you are saying.  And I'm really glad that in some little way my posts kinda help you on your own journey.  It's encouraging for me to know that as I am benefitting from posting, it is concurrently benefitting others as well.  Since I've posted on this particular thread, I've wondered if it was even worth exposing myself, and how others have taken it.  Or if there are people who can somehow level with me or just wanting to explore this topic as much as I do.  Essentially, I just want to explore this realm of this powerful force in my life and hopefully discover things along the way with the inputs of others.  I guess you can say that I want to feel things and think things through on my terms and in my own space.  I always welcome inputs from people as long as they level with me and not tell me how to think or to feel on their terms.  I'm not sure if I'm getting my point across without sounding fickle or even crass.  Your post was reassuring to me, validating to me that it was a positive thing for me to post afterall.  Thanks.  I needed to hear what you had to say on your last post.