Brigid,
Thank you for the support. The animal abuse was indeed over the top and the fact that the children had no choice but to witness it made me physically ill. My daughter is still reeling from it. She said, "Mom, I always wanted a kitten but I wouldn't have got one if I knew Dad was going to hurt her." She was blaming herself.
Mudpuppy,
Hi, old friend. I think of you and your family too.
Yes, he is becoming more and more unglued.
Storm,
It's very nice to hear from you. I'm sorry I forgot to mention in my orignal post that X N did give the kitten away to his half sister who BTW is a wonderful young woman. Thank goodness for small favors. Now if only I could get the kids away from him too.
Hi Mum.
Thanks for the positive energy, girlfriend.
X N has been talking to the children about moving to the West Coast (sorry West Coasters). I have been hoping, wishing, and praying that this will happen. It would be a dream come true to have a country between him and the children. Apparently his plan is to be gone before my daughter is 10. This could all be some sort of game though.
Write,
I will look into the Bancroft book. Thanks for the suggestion.
I have also been working closely with the children's therapist and school guidance counselor. The guidance counselor has been absolutely wonderful! She is such a strong advocate for my children....especially my daughter who meets with her regularly. She was very forthcoming with child protective services. She has really helped my daughter develop and use coping strategies while at Dad's house. My daughter is beginning to stand up to Dad in little but significant ways.
Portia,
Thank you for your confidence in me. You are too kind.
Hopalong,
I really feel that word is getting out and being believed more and more. I know the school is no longer fooled by him and he knows this.
He now refuses to take the children to any events/activities related to school.....even birthday parties b/c I know he fears that the other parents are not thinking good thoughts about him.
Movinon:
I am so sorry for your situation. The system is tragically flawed on so many levels. I know not to put all my faith in it. Believe me when I say it was not on the top of my list for help but sometimes desperate situations call for desperate measures. Actually, the CPS worker was floored that I had presented these abusive situations to a Judge in family court and the Judge DID.not.blink.an.eye over any of it. He ignored it.
It really sickens me.
Amazingly, both children are thriving socially and academically. Emotionally, I think they are doing above average which is excellent considering what they are forced to endure.
Sela,
I do have a lawyer. Just got the bill in the mail to prove it.

Thanks for your prayers.
Seasons,
Thank you for your wishes and thoughts. They are much appreciated.
Hugs to everyone,
Mia