Author Topic: The River Flows  (Read 1690 times)

moonlight52

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The River Flows
« on: July 03, 2006, 01:58:04 AM »
The past year has been one of great learning.I have learned from all experience ,no matter what the label.I am grateful for the spiritual and emotional growth .Much learning done right here THX

I am learning to let go of fear to make room for good things to happen .I am expecting good things to happen.

Even more important is the Heart.I am grateful to be finding the real me.I know now no matter what the storm I will stand
and to my surprise be strong for my loved ones.I am not afraid.

My family has come thu a hard storm together stronger with love.It is good to know what is important.

Its the LOVE Its the kindness .I want to wake up in gratitude  :D   

What have you learned that is important to you ?

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axa

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Re: The River Flows
« Reply #1 on: July 03, 2006, 03:03:18 AM »
Hi Moonlight,

I have learned in my short time here that loving others becomes distorted if I do not love myself.  That I am human, make mistakes but I am open to learning and developing healthy boundaries.  that fear of abandonment has kept me trapped in situations which were not healthy.  I am open to rewriting my script and believe that it is possible if I can invest my energy in compassion and honest to myself.

Feel like I have taken a giant step in the last short while................many thanks.


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Re: The River Flows
« Reply #2 on: July 03, 2006, 06:52:34 AM »
((((((Moon)))))))
I've learned that in the unlikeliest places, I can find grace like this:
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I want to wake up in gratitude 


I've learned that I am lonely, and the contrast of talking here so steadily has helped me face the ways I've been isolating myself. I've learned that waking early in the morning and checking here makes me feel less alone.

I've learned I can face some of my toughest fears with compassionate encouragement here, and wisdom, so much wisdom.

I've learned that I'm not yet living the fulfilling life I want to, but I am beginning to visualize it more persistently.

And more.
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lightofheart

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Re: The River Flows
« Reply #3 on: July 03, 2006, 09:35:11 AM »
Hi Moon,

Thank you for starting this beautiful flow.

I've learned that seeing N behavior for what it is doesn't make me a less accepting or compassionate person. And that the energy I save in not to trying to compensate for Ns' stuff or twist it to a more positive light helps me feel safer and saner in my choices and whatever interactions are necessary.

I was in an N-driven tailspin the first day I came here, between my boss and and an N ex-friend (still part of a professional circle) who came to a get-together at my house and unspooled so much dishonesty, manipulation and rudeness that I was tempted to call an exorcist.  :( Days later I still felt unsettled...and, rather than accepting the truth of my own feelings, blamed myself for not letting it go.

Discovering VESMB and sharing here truly felt like walking into the light. I realized the degree to which I'd been judging myself for my feelings and the real struggles I was going through with both these people, over some of the same N-behavior that my F. had unleashed in my FOO and childhood.

Dr. G. has called it fighting for our lives. I don't feel that level of urgency, at least not now. But I do see myself fighting for my truth, and how intrinsically worthy and freeing the journey of self-expression is for me. I also see how much there is to learn here, and inside, for every step of the way. imho, the surprising part, the blissfully unexpected gift, is all the humor, camaraderie and endlessly generous compassion that swell here: deep gorgeous waves--even from pain, even from people with plenty of reasons to be closed off or defensive who have largely chosen to embrace each other instead.

With awe and gratitude,
LoH








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Re: The River Flows
« Reply #4 on: July 03, 2006, 01:52:39 PM »
Love the title of the thread. At the final day of the school year at a school I have taught at for the last 12 years,  I wrote a little thing that I shared with my colleagues. One part said this (the image throughout was of a river):

"I stopped stuggling so hard to hold on to that one little branch sticking out of the rapids, and instead allowed the current to take me where I needed to go...to sandy beaches downstream....things I never knew were there while I fought the flow.."

I thanked my staff for being there to pull me out of the rapids when I needed it and for throwing me back in when I was ready. I really had a lot of good friends there....they were my safety.....

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Re: The River Flows
« Reply #5 on: July 05, 2006, 03:47:44 PM »
I love this thread, Moon...

This past year has been a good deal of learning for me, too.  It came the hard way ("Thank you, Sir!  May I have another?").  What I learned (am still learning) is that in allowing myself to have a voice did not make me a horrible, ugly beast.  I simply get to speak my own truth.  That is all and that is it.  No bells and whistles here.  I feel much more free than I did several months ago.  Yippee!

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I have learned in my short time here that loving others becomes distorted if I do not love myself.

This is so very true.  I am beginning to think my attempts at loving others when I was so empty were almost fraudulent.  Thanks for that, axa.

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Re: The River Flows
« Reply #6 on: July 05, 2006, 08:36:43 PM »
What have I learned?

I think the most important thing I have learned is that the answers are within me and that I can choose to be happy and have a good life.  That may seem basic to some, but to me it is a huge breakthrough.  I have always been "other" oriented, externally motivated, dependent on others' opinions, and pretty certain that nothing good would ever happen for me.  The good that did happen always was out-weighed by the negative things.  And there have been negative things.  But now I think the good is getting more powerful.  More possible.  I'm more open and freer.  Now I can see the goodness and the answers in me.  Still struggling with many things.  But those answers will come in time.

This place and you folks have made such a huge difference in my life.  I have never before made this kind of real progress.  I am very grateful.

Love, Pennyplant
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