Hi Anastasia:
I know similar types. One that gets me going is my children's step mother. I think she is severely jealous of both my girls...their qualities....any opportunities/privileges they happen to get.....their accomplishments.....friends....relationships
......the whole kit and a caboodle.
She makes rude, nasty and cruel remarks to them frequently and seems to have a real difficult time hiding her jealous feelings. And she fights with their father (her husband, my ex) out of jealousy too. Example:
I was there last Christmas day and after everyone had opened their gifts, my girls went upstairs to put their stuff away and I went to the front entrance to put my boots on and I heard her say, loudly, to my ex:
"Next year......you better spend as much on me as you do on your kids!!!" (in a very nasty tone).

I had just seen her open some very lovely gifts, some quite pricey, that he had given her and I thought: "That's a nice improvement....to see him making an effort and spending his hard earned cash on his wife like that. Wow! What a great change!"
I think he spent more on her and what the heck????? That's not what Christmas is about anyhow!! Ooooo! She ticked me off there!! I wanted to duct tape her mouth shut, even if it was Christmas (

). I felt bad, taking my girls and leaving my ex there to deal with her....alone (

ain't that ridiculous??).
(It's weird but we have a very open door policy, in both our homes....for my girls sakes.....and this woman is very pleasant and kind to me, to my face, but supposedly, according to my girls, she bad mouths me, the minute I leave.....
In some ways....she just seems totally unable to contain herself?).
My understanding, thus far, about jealousy is that it is usually, supposedly, a feeling that crops up big time when a person feels inadequate/insecure/undervalued/unworthy/etc. Basically, they feel really lousy about themselves and everyone else in the world looks better to them.

To me, this is so sad. They waste their lives as if standing outside a candy store looking in. This is what I've told my girls and also, for them to do their very best not to take what this woman says to heart, not to believe her angry/nasty/rude/cruel/or otherwise derogatory words because they just are not true.
It's hard though. People like her manage to say the most cutting things, especially in front of other people/in social situations. They shock. They ridicule. They batter with words, but very slyly.
I wish I knew a magic answer that would shield my girls and you too Anastasia from such meanness. All I can say is don't believe what she says to you. It's probably the exact opposite that is true. If she says you are ugly the truth is you are gorgeous.
It's not easy though is it? To know and understand that this person is jealous doesn't take away the initial sting of her words. Especially being your own mother.
I'm so sorry (((((((((((((((((Anastasia)))))))))))))))). No daughter should ever have to feel such hurts. No child, especially. It's so sad.

I guess you just have to try to remember that she feels like crap......about herself........and that's why...why....why.....she behaves as she does. It has nothing to do with you. Not a thing! It's all about her.
Sela