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How to heal NPD
Discounted Girl:
"Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny."
-- Frank Outlaw
Matthias43:
Ok, I take your point, it wasn't very mature of me to argue in the way that I did. I do often write stuff without thinking of the impact it has on others... something I need to work on, my short fuse. You have my apologies if it hurt you in any real way.
But you might consider that I'm just a teenage kid in high school... not your spiritual guardian. And when it comes to narcissism, it really hurts when people like bunny says that healing is impossible. And I also wonder how you can give me an instant diagnosis, having never met me. Don't get ME started with the moralizing now....
Well, cya later,
Matthias
Anonymous:
Matthias,
First, thanks for acknowledging your impulsive way of speaking that was mean to others. Second, we have no way of knowing you were a teenager unless I missed it in your first post. Third, I didn't think you had a personality disorder. I thought you were talking about other people who were narcissists. Fourth, it is highly unlikely that you have a personality disorder. That is an extremely serious mental problem - a psychiatric disorder. You are highly unlikely to fit into that category. A personality disorder can't be healed /cured but some people can get "better" to a small degree with intensive help lasting years. Few people with personality disorders have any motivation to change. That is part of the personality disorder. Fifth, I have already read Humanizing the Narcissistic Style and it did not convince me in the least that the personality disorder can be healed. If you think you have a problem with narcissism, you can absolutely be helped as you are still a teenager and I seriously doubt you have any personality disorder.
bunny
Anonymous:
Matthias
I, for one, am confused by your last post. First, you invite everyone to a site about healing narcissism and have not explained why people here would be interested. Nor have you revealed why you are here, there, or anywhere. What are you struggling with, why are you seeking support? Why does it hurt when someone says NPD cannot be healed? (I'm not saying it shouldn't hurt, just pointing out that you haven't explained your presence here in a way that we understand or can easily accept).
It is logical to assume from your invitation to the N website, combined with your style of communication that you are at least flirting with symptoms of narcissism. Some of this can be explained by your age, I suppose. However, you seem well read enough and aware enough to know what a serious topic you are "playing" with. Offering up the fact, now, that you are a teenager is, to me, just a maneuver to avoid taking responsibility for this communication. It just won't wash here.
The point of this community, IMHO, is to seek growth and offer support to others. People here will offer up their stories and are ready, indeed looking for, feedback and advice. This is a source of growth. If you are uncomfortable with feedback you didn't expect, you might want to ask yourself why you feel that way.
If you are truly seeking support, not just attention, we would encourage you to do so and share freely. You might want to take into account who your audience is, survivors of narcissistic behavior. All of us reserve the right to feel uncomfortable with anyone's post and say so, in a way that is least harmful to others.
Best wishes on your journey...
Matthias43:
Hey,
Thank you for your insight, and I mean that too. I do have some symptoms of narcissism, probably 3 or 4 of the 9 categories listed in the DSM. They may lessen as I grow up, we'll see. And my family is very difficult, especially my father who's very narcisistic, although he's never been diagnosed. So I can relate to many of you.
I actually thought this site was for both narcissistic people and non-narcissistic ones... sorry, guess it was my mistake. As for coming to the HealNPD site (which is for both narcissists and non-narcissists/relations) I never said that you had to be interested, it was just an invitation to have a look, since our site is still quite small at the moment.
Hope that explained some things.
take care,
Matthias
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