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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #330 on: November 14, 2006, 04:34:05 PM »
Yeah, Bones, speaking from experience here, if you took a job where you had to get up everyday at 3 am it would completely change your lifestyle and keep you off balance from the rest of the world and their schedule.  Everytime you go somewhere at night and then have to leave early, like at 7, to get to bed on time, you will have to explain and explain.  People just won't understand.  You would miss a lot by being on such a different schedule.  And if they don't even want to compensate you well.... Just not the place for you yet.  You'll find it.  At least you're getting out there and working on this.  I bet it will pay off soon!

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Thanks, PennyPlant!

I was discussing the same issues with one of my friends today and she said virtually the same things.  The bottom line was that I would not have had any kind of life at all outside of work and school.  That's not the way I want to live my life.

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #331 on: November 16, 2006, 07:20:52 PM »
I'm still trying and applying.  I just got a contact back from a place that I sent my resume' to via Career Builder.com.  They are interested in interviewing me and we have a tentative appointment scheduled for this coming Wednesday at 1:00 p.m.  I've emphasized to them that I am still a "trainee" working on meeting the state requirements for certification.  I'm taking a "wait and see" attitude with this place as it seems to be a type of "staffing organization" that provides personnel to various client-facilities in this geographic area.  Researching their website gives me the impression that they have offices all over the country.  Has anyone heard of the "Delta-T Group"?

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #332 on: November 19, 2006, 01:49:26 AM »
BTW, I'm scheduled to have the permanent crown installed on Tuesday.

Bones

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #333 on: November 19, 2006, 09:53:10 AM »
Bones,
How did it go with the interview?

Good for you for seeing through all this dental work.
You can take that bright new smile right into your new job, when the right one comes.

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #334 on: November 19, 2006, 05:09:06 PM »
Bones,
How did it go with the interview?

Good for you for seeing through all this dental work.
You can take that bright new smile right into your new job, when the right one comes.

Hops

Hi, Hops.

I thought I had posted what had taken place from the interview of November 13th.  It turned out that I would have been a poor fit for the job because it would have required me to get up at 3:00 a.m. and report for work by 4:00 a.m.  That would have isolated me even further from having any kind of life as all of my friends work regular working hours.  By the time they would have gotten home from their jobs I would have to be preparing for bed.  I wouldn't be able to see my boyfriend, go to the movies or dinner with him nor see my other friends nor even be able to watch my favorite shows in the evening.  That job would have been nothing more than going to work, coming home, fixing dinner, do my graduate school work and go to bed.  I don't want that kind of life!  I'm already battling depression and Seasonal Affective Disorder.  Messing with my sleep-wake cycle plus social isolation would have made those conditions far worse!  No thanks!

Bones

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #335 on: November 19, 2006, 05:21:48 PM »
So sorry, Bones, I got mixed up.
I do remember the insane-commute job...

I hope you get an interview for a better fit soon.

Hops
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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #336 on: November 19, 2006, 06:23:14 PM »
So sorry, Bones, I got mixed up.
I do remember the insane-commute job...

I hope you get an interview for a better fit soon.

Hops

Thanks, Hops!

I have another interview coming up on Wednesday in Columbia, MD.

Bones

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #337 on: November 20, 2006, 12:37:21 AM »
Good going Bones.  The way you keep plugging on, you will have a good result.  Each time is a learning experience.  And good practice.  How about getting out and networking?  I know in the DC area there are many opportunities to meet and greet.    I know you don't feel like it, most people don't.  But it can be helpful.  All you need is that one contact!
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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #338 on: November 20, 2006, 02:38:24 PM »
Good going Bones.  The way you keep plugging on, you will have a good result.  Each time is a learning experience.  And good practice.  How about getting out and networking?  I know in the DC area there are many opportunities to meet and greet.    I know you don't feel like it, most people don't.  But it can be helpful.  All you need is that one contact!
Plucky

I've been doing that as well even though I've not had any luck yet.

Bones

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #339 on: November 22, 2006, 12:37:18 AM »
The permanent crown has now been installed and I'm still mentally preparing for my upcoming interview Wednesday afternoon.

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #340 on: November 22, 2006, 12:43:38 AM »
You go girl!!!!! I hope the job fits as well as your new crown :)
Lots of love, Beth
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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #341 on: November 22, 2006, 07:44:20 PM »
You go girl!!!!! I hope the job fits as well as your new crown :)
Lots of love, Beth

Thanks, Beth.

Even though I got there in time for my 1:00 p.m. appointment there seemed to be some confusion.  I had already filled out an application on-line so I was expecting just a job interview before they made the decision to hire me.  Instead I was given a whole slew of forms to fill out (i.e. W-9, contract, etc.) even though I was told that they had not decided to accept me yet!  My logic dictates that (1) I fill out a job application, (2) if the application passes inspection, then I would get a job interview, (3) if I pass the job interview and get accepted, THEN I get all the various employment forms to fill out.  It felt like the cart was being put before the horse!   By the time I finished filling out all the forms that they told me was required BEFORE the job interview, there was not enough time for the interview itself before the interviewer had to leave for another appointment.   :roll:  I found that VERY confusing!!!!  Then they decided to do a telephone interview the day after Thanksgiving.  That means I have to stay home and stay off-line until after the phone call.  The whole experience still has me scratching my head!

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #342 on: November 22, 2006, 08:08:18 PM »
Bones, I have had interviews where I was given a tour and treated almost as if I already had the job. It seemed strange to me and I have seen it done with others that way as well.  I'm wondering now if it is some form of screening to see if the candidate will fit in before even doing an interview and finding out your qualifications.  You know, if the person seems interested in their surroundings during the tour or if they seem bored with the place that might tell them something about how well the job will be learned, etc.  Of course, I'm just filling in what might make sense to me as a reason for doing that.  Personally, I find it misleading to do things before the interview that used to be done as part of orientation once you've been hired.  A couple of times I thought I had the job because of that and was quite disappointed when I never got a call back.  I felt kind of tricked when that happened.

But possibly you have already passed the first hurdle since they have gone ahead and scheduled a phone interview.  I did one of those once and it was a mere formality.  They already knew me from a previous interview (when I was not hired) and just wanted to touch base with me before actually giving me the job the second time around.

So, maybe it is actually a good sign to be having the phone interview on Friday.  I hope it works out well for you.

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #343 on: November 23, 2006, 12:39:38 PM »
Bones, I have had interviews where I was given a tour and treated almost as if I already had the job. It seemed strange to me and I have seen it done with others that way as well.  I'm wondering now if it is some form of screening to see if the candidate will fit in before even doing an interview and finding out your qualifications.  You know, if the person seems interested in their surroundings during the tour or if they seem bored with the place that might tell them something about how well the job will be learned, etc.  Of course, I'm just filling in what might make sense to me as a reason for doing that.  Personally, I find it misleading to do things before the interview that used to be done as part of orientation once you've been hired.  A couple of times I thought I had the job because of that and was quite disappointed when I never got a call back.  I felt kind of tricked when that happened.

But possibly you have already passed the first hurdle since they have gone ahead and scheduled a phone interview.  I did one of those once and it was a mere formality.  They already knew me from a previous interview (when I was not hired) and just wanted to touch base with me before actually giving me the job the second time around.

So, maybe it is actually a good sign to be having the phone interview on Friday.  I hope it works out well for you.

Pennyplant

Thanks, Pennyplant!

One of the other hurdles is that they insist on speaking to the person who fired me and not to the references I gave.  That does not bode well.

Bones

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #344 on: November 23, 2006, 01:42:57 PM »
Bones - what concerns me is that I view the interview as a two way street. It is as much an opportunity for you to determine if they are right for you as it is the other way around.  It seems that in this case they are not cognizant of that.  Remember that you are interviewing them too.

Keep those red flags in mind but if every thing else fits you can take the job and still keep looking.

About talking to the person who fired you - let it go.  there is nothing you can do about it.  Send that person
positive mindwaves and then remember - that person is limited legally in what he or she can say.

Keep positive - remember - you are making a choice here too.  With that frame of mind you can feel confident and
let your fears fall back somewhere. - I'm rooting for you Bones - Gaining Strength