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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #345 on: November 23, 2006, 03:02:15 PM »
Bones, if you think you are getting bad references, there's an outfit that will doublecheck them for you. It costs, but it may be worth it.

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #346 on: November 24, 2006, 03:20:27 PM »
Bones - what concerns me is that I view the interview as a two way street. It is as much an opportunity for you to determine if they are right for you as it is the other way around.  It seems that in this case they are not cognizant of that.  Remember that you are interviewing them too.

Keep those red flags in mind but if every thing else fits you can take the job and still keep looking.

About talking to the person who fired you - let it go.  there is nothing you can do about it.  Send that person
positive mindwaves and then remember - that person is limited legally in what he or she can say.

Keep positive - remember - you are making a choice here too.  With that frame of mind you can feel confident and
let your fears fall back somewhere. - I'm rooting for you Bones - Gaining Strength

Thanks, GS.

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #347 on: November 24, 2006, 03:23:10 PM »
Bones, if you think you are getting bad references, there's an outfit that will doublecheck them for you. It costs, but it may be worth it.

www.badreferences.com

Thanks, Stormy.

I'll check it out.

Bones

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #348 on: November 24, 2006, 03:28:27 PM »
BTW, after waiting several hours, today, to be called for the telephone interview and hearing nothing, I called back.  The person answering the phone laughed and stated that the individual doesn't work the day after Thanksgiving and she doesn't know when the telephone interview will take place.  This was the opposite of what I was told on Wednesday by this same individual.  I've got a bad feeling about this, especially given all the forms I was required to fill out before they would interview me!

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #349 on: November 24, 2006, 05:50:07 PM »
Bones, I have a bad feeling too, but it's more about the clod who laughed at you today. You might want to call again on Monday, and if that same clod answers the phone again, ask to speak to someone else. If, when you speak to that someone else, there's any surprise at all that you didn't get your callback on Friday, I wouldn't hesitate to share what you experienced when you tried to make contact then.

Not that you want to work in a place where lies and gameplaying are happening - if they are - before you're even hired; but if that's true, it may be worth something to someone there to discover that the dysfunction - if that's what this was - has spread so far that games are now being played with interviewees.

I've been a supervisor. I would not have tolerated anyone laughing at an interviewee who was making a follow up contact for any reason. I would also have some pretty sharp words for anyone on my staff who answered the phone and blithely informed you that they couldn't give you any useful information, without making the least effort to put you in touch with someone who could.

Do you see what I mean? I cannot be certain, but based on my own understanding of standards of conduct for workplaces and how to treat job candidates, it sure looks to me as though you were abused.

[PS: if I sound like an old meanie, you'll be surprised to learn that I had waiting lists of people who wanted to transfer in and work for me, every place I was a supervisor. I applied the same standards to myself that I expected my staff to meet: no meanness, no bs, no games, no lies. People found it refreshing to be able to actually do their jobs...]
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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #350 on: November 25, 2006, 08:18:52 AM »
Bones, I have a bad feeling too, but it's more about the clod who laughed at you today. You might want to call again on Monday, and if that same clod answers the phone again, ask to speak to someone else. If, when you speak to that someone else, there's any surprise at all that you didn't get your callback on Friday, I wouldn't hesitate to share what you experienced when you tried to make contact then.

Not that you want to work in a place where lies and gameplaying are happening - if they are - before you're even hired; but if that's true, it may be worth something to someone there to discover that the dysfunction - if that's what this was - has spread so far that games are now being played with interviewees.

I've been a supervisor. I would not have tolerated anyone laughing at an interviewee who was making a follow up contact for any reason. I would also have some pretty sharp words for anyone on my staff who answered the phone and blithely informed you that they couldn't give you any useful information, without making the least effort to put you in touch with someone who could.

Do you see what I mean? I cannot be certain, but based on my own understanding of standards of conduct for workplaces and how to treat job candidates, it sure looks to me as though you were abused.

[PS: if I sound like an old meanie, you'll be surprised to learn that I had waiting lists of people who wanted to transfer in and work for me, every place I was a supervisor. I applied the same standards to myself that I expected my staff to meet: no meanness, no bs, no games, no lies. People found it refreshing to be able to actually do their jobs...]

Thanks, Stormy!

I wished there were more supervisors like you in the workplace instead of what I have recently been encountering during the past three to four months!

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #351 on: November 26, 2006, 05:15:06 PM »
I recently got a thing in the mail from the Unemployment Office where I have to attend a mandatory workshop this week.  I'm hoping they can give me some new insights into what else I can do.

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #352 on: November 26, 2006, 07:51:26 PM »
Bones,
I smell a rat there too... I would bail on that place...
Yes, I hope the workshop will be a good one and helpful!! You certainly have worked your butt off... time for some good results, dontcha think???
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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #353 on: November 27, 2006, 03:30:27 AM »
Bones,
I smell a rat there too... I would bail on that place...
Yes, I hope the workshop will be a good one and helpful!! You certainly have worked your butt off... time for some good results, dontcha think???
Love, Beth

Thanks, Beth.

I'm just hoping that they don't take advantage of the information I filled out on the W-9 or the job application.

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #354 on: December 05, 2006, 06:23:41 PM »
I am SO GLAD that this Board is up and running again!

To bring everyone up to date since I was able to log on her last, I have a job interview scheduled for Wednesday, December 6th at 6:00 p.m. that looks very promising and another interview coming up on Saturday, December 9th, that also looks promising as well.  Both are part-time work.  One is working with the homeless and the other is teaching a four=hour class on Saturday mornings.  Both experiences should be good.

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #355 on: December 05, 2006, 10:07:54 PM »
Bravo, Bones!

So glad things are shaking loose for you.

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #356 on: December 06, 2006, 08:45:02 AM »
Bravo, Bones!

So glad things are shaking loose for you.

Hops

Thanks, Hops!

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #357 on: December 06, 2006, 09:18:09 PM »
Any news on the new interviews, bones?

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #358 on: December 06, 2006, 11:39:24 PM »
Any news on the new interviews, bones?

Love, Beth

Hi, Beth.

I had one job interview this evening for the position of Program Monitor for the Hypothermia Program.  This program provides overnight shelter for the homeless during the winter months.  I've been hired on a part time basis, Friday and Saturday nights from 6:30 p.m. to midnight starting this Friday.  I have another job interview on Saturday morning for the position of counselor/facilitator for a court-ordered diversion program where I will be teaching first-time offenders of writing bad checks on how to avoid that problem in the future.  That second interview sounds promising as well.  If I get that job too, then I will be working Friday nights, 6:30 p.m. to midnight, Saturday morning from 8:00 a.m. to 12:00 noon, then Saturday nights from 6:30 p.m. to midnight.  The Hypothermia Program will run from now until March 31, 2007.

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Re: Lost My Job and Doubting Myself
« Reply #359 on: December 07, 2006, 11:03:51 PM »
Any news on the new interviews, bones?

Love, Beth

Hi, Beth.

I had one job interview this evening for the position of Program Monitor for the Hypothermia Program.  This program provides overnight shelter for the homeless during the winter months.  I've been hired on a part time basis, Friday and Saturday nights from 6:30 p.m. to midnight starting this Friday.  I have another job interview on Saturday morning for the position of counselor/facilitator for a court-ordered diversion program where I will be teaching first-time offenders of writing bad checks on how to avoid that problem in the future.  That second interview sounds promising as well.  If I get that job too, then I will be working Friday nights, 6:30 p.m. to midnight, Saturday morning from 8:00 a.m. to 12:00 noon, then Saturday nights from 6:30 p.m. to midnight.  The Hypothermia Program will run from now until March 31, 2007.

Bones

Right now I guess it's normal to feel apprehensive about starting one new part time job and I just got word that I've been hired for the second part time job as well.

Bones