Hi everyone,
Recently, my Nmom brought to my attention that she and her sister were working on dividing my deceased grandfather's estate. It is a sizable estate with acres and acres of land in a prime area of the country.
There are 12 children in all with my Nmom being one of the youngest girls. Each sibbling has married and has several children and these children now have children and these children have children. So to sum it up the family is VERY big.
My Nmom and her sister got this brilliant idea. They would divide the property but arrange it so that the property could not be sold but could only be handed down to direct blood descendants of my grandfather so that as she says: " The land can never leave the family."
Usually I would not offer an opinion on these kinds of matters but this is what I told her:
I said that I think she and her sister are sending a clear message to the people who marry into our family that they are not family and I think that this is wrong. If you marrry someone, then they are your family. I told her that she should prepare for alot of ill will from family members. But of course she went into never never land mode and switched me off.
The whole senario reminds me of the type of nastiness and divisiveness that my Nmom employs. At least everyone else in the family will get to see it now. It also seems to me that her sister must be the same way. The great and royal Nfamily bloodline that courses through their veins must be protected at all costs.
She is encouraging me and my husband to build on the land. I told her I was not interested and that I had no money to spend. Needless to say my H is not impressed.
What is about N's and property?
Thank you for letting me vent.
Lib
