Change is Strange

[Hopalong]

Hi all,
Just want to give a quick update after my 2nd week at the new job...
I like it! I'm using my core skills, being creative, doing commercials, writing, editing, meeting customers, getting to know my boss and coworkers (all male, and all nice). The owner's wife invited me to take a day trip to a place I told her about.

It's just not making complete sense to be around kind, nice, gentle people!

But whether it makes sense or not, I turned down an opportunity a few days ago for an interview back at the university for a job that would pay 20K more than the one I'm doing now. On the surface, insane. But I never had a moment's doubt. I will not go back into that stifling bureaucracy, even for good pay.

I'm taking a risk with an entrepreneur, and it's fun. Work? Fun? I forgot it was possible. Last time I enjoyed a job was a dot-com. One of three I worked for during the first Internet boom. Those were such exciting days (until we were all laid off...) 

I am very tired, very behind with home paperwork and my exercise program, and slept the day away today. So I need to work on my eating, exercise and sleep routines...very hard. At 56 it's a bit harder to go after things with the energy I used to have. But I still feel that much is possible. (One possibility is that the business will take off and we'll all do well!)

A grateful

Hops (this thread's vague on purpose...everybody deals with change being strange! Take it anywhere. ..xo, H)

[Gaining Strength]

Hip Hip Hooray for Hopalong!!!! Hip Hop Hurray!!!

I am so GLAD that you like your job.  I am so GLAD that you got another job offer from
the university.  I am so GLAD they offered you 20K more than you get now and I am
so GLAD that you turned them down.

Hip Hop Hurray for Hopalong!!!!!

Turning down the significant money signifies such incredible sense.  You really are following
your heart.  You can only do that because you are healing from your N induced pain.
What great news!!!!  I feel strongly that you will begin to find you paperwork starting to flow.
At first you won't even notice that suddenly you are getting it done without even having to
plan and procrastinate.  You will be getting it done and then suddenly that angst about
doing paperwork will come across you and you will stop and think about what papers
you need to deal with and then you will smile and laugh because you will have already
finished it without even thinking about it.

That is what is on your horizon - before you know it.

Hip Hop Hurray for Hopalong!!!!

[Hopalong]

GS,

Your cheers are so comforting to me. Thank you, dear.

How did the big day go?

??? Thinking of you,

Hops

[moonlight52]

Hops ,

 Happy cheers that you have found the gentle creative workplace you desired.....

  moonlight

[mum]

Hops. I am so grateful for your happy decision! Whoever said: "follow your bliss" was right on. I'm happy you have found a fun place to work.

[seasons]

Hopalong, Congratulations on your new job! I'm so happy to hear you enjoy it, a blessing you deserve.

Good luck always, seasons

[gratitude28]

Can I come and work with you hops???? Hee hee

Seriously,
I am soooooooooo happy you found such a great workplace. And I can only imagine they were thrilled to have gotten you!!!!

Love and hugs,
Beth

[Hopalong]

((((((((((((GS, Moon, Mum, Seasons, Beth and all))))))))))))))

Thanks so much for celebrating this with me.
You have patiently listened to soooooo many tales about the old job, it's a joy to tell new ones.

BTW, my old Nboss called me last week, trying to get me to do another editorial task for him for free. I politely pointed out that I am available for freelancing and I think it embarrassed him. He never followed up. Hee!

Yugghhs. He's the past. The whole institution is the past.

Happy to go to work tomorrow. Amazing!

Hops

[Gaining Strength]

BTW, my old Nboss called me last week, trying to get me to do another editorial task for him for free.

UNBELIEVABLE!!!!
Well several things are abundantly clear from this:  What an N!!!! and How safe you are and great response!!!!!
Such confirmation about being in the right place.  Hops, I am getting clearer sense that the money will come
through.  You are definitely in the right Place.  I am so glad for you!!! your friend = Gaining Strength

[Hopalong]

Thank you, GS.
I'm ashamed to report I got squat done this w/e with the paperwork.

Wrote one check.

Please send those powerful GS vibes for me tonight, when I'll come home tired and have no choice but to pick it all up.

Hope you have a good day too, easy and free, trusting yourself and the current.

love,
Hops

[gratitude28]

I meant to tell you... you are a Recovery Goddess for setting limits with the old jerk
What a woman!!!!!!

[Brigid]

Hops,
I'm so happy to hear of the comforting work surroundings you now have.  Sounds like you have found your home away from home.  Great also to hear of your strength in turning down the other job offer from the university and your response to the old bosses ridiculous request.  Way to go.

The paperwork will get done as you get in the groove of your new routine.  Don't sweat the small stuff, as they say.

Cheers,

B.

[Sela]

Hiya Hops:

It was so nice to come here and read about how things are going for you now!  I'm very happy for you too!  Enjoy!  Congratulations Hops!!

  Sela

[Gaining Strength]

Hops - you didn't get "squat" done, you got ONE check written.  One check is something.  Change your attitude toward the ONE and it will open doors.

replace, "I only got ONE done.  What a louse I am.  I can't do the simple paperwork.  Everyone else does what is expected of them but not me.  What a poor excuse.  I can't even be trusted to fulfill my basic responsibilities. Oh blah, blah, blah!!!" and instead think, "I got ONE check written.  I would like to have gotten more but I did get ONE and later I can get another.  If I get ONE done everynow and then then before I know it I will have them all done.  I've been too perfectionistic about having to complete them all at once to give myself any credit.  I'm going to change that right now.  I got a check written and I am proud of myself.  I will do the same thing in a while and before I know it I will have gotten them ALL done one check at a time.  What's the big deal.  I can't write two simultaneously anyway.  Where is the law written that I must write EVERY check at the same time.  That is a false rule that somehow got implanted in my mind - a crazy rule.  I like writing ONE check.  It's easy, it's not got that anticipation burden of having to write them all.  I hate that ALL OR NOTHING mentality I've been functioning on about bills and paperwork.  NO MORE.  Now I can do one, or two or more but no longer does it have to be all.  Boy do I feel FREE!!!"

Now does that feel better?  I'm sending you paperwork mojo this afternoon to tackle one or more - whatever your heart desires.  I'm sending you freedom to chose.  One check on getting home, one before dinner, one after, one before you read, watch tv, or relax and one before bed.  Why suddenly without pain you've done 5.  

Happiness for you HOPS. - your friend - Gaining Strength

[pennyplant]

I've been too perfectionistic about having to complete them all at once to give myself any credit.  I'm going to change that right now.  I got a check written and I am proud of myself.  I will do the same thing in a while and before I know it I will have gotten them ALL done one check at a time.  What's the big deal.  I can't write two simultaneously anyway.  Where is the law written that I must write EVERY check at the same time.  That is a false rule that somehow got implanted in my mind - a crazy rule.  I like writing ONE check.  It's easy, it's not got that anticipation burden of having to write them all.  I hate that ALL OR NOTHING mentality I've been functioning on about bills and paperwork.  NO MORE.  Now I can do one, or two or more but no longer does it have to be all.  Boy do I feel FREE!!!"

GS, You're so cool.  That is exactly the right way to look at all of it.

Hopsy, she is so very right you know.  Oh, this is a great tape to play in your head.  Is it in there yet?  It's in my head, that's for sure.  And I'm glad you like your new job.  It happened for you.  Just right and just in time.  A great thing.  Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy.

Pennyplant