Crashed

[Dazed1]

Hi All,

I love this discussion on homes and houses.

Anticipating Paradise and then realizing it was "paradise lost" as Sea said.  Anticipating wonderful thanksgivings in a beautiful dining room and then remembering the disappointing thanksgivings, as CB said.

"When I drive away, I will have to say goodbye to those dreams and disappointments."  CB, to me, you're describing grief.  Not only is it saying goodbye to your actual home, but saying goodbye to dreams.  But, finding new dreams in your new home.

Yes, I'm going through this myself.  I have to move, but I don't know where in my town I want to live.  Do I want to live here or there and what will it be like?  It's like trying on a bunch of hats and nothing quite fits.  Looking for a paradise, which I know, won't always be paradise.  Making a commitment to plant roots and not knowing if the roots will take.

I believe that Jung thought that when we dream of houses, the house represents ourselves.  I had a dream about a three story house and the top floor was rotating, like one of those rotating restaurants at the top of a building.  Maybe, according to Jung, the house in my dream was a metaphor of my mind spinning around.

Hoping we all find happiness in our new homes.

dazed

[axa]

Just caught up with this discussion

I moved house last year.  My new house is full of light, very clean and bright.  When people call they always remark on how Zen the place is.  No clutter, no disorder, no madness.  I remember saying to my friend I think it is a metaphor for how I want my life to be.  Clean and calm.  Maybe Jung was right!

Axa

I live alone now so its easy to keep it Zen!!

[seastorm]

Homes as a metaphor for where we are in our psyches. I like that idea. I heard that about Jung and houses too.
In Gestalt Therapy they would have the dreamer role play the house. Soo...... I am a big house and have seen many families and transitions. This house has overewhelmed a lot of people because ti tis so much work.  At the heart of the house is a good fireplace upstairs and downstairs. The best part if the connection to nature. It is a Disney movie on the back veranda.  Widl goose lands and scares a beaver who startles a duck and makes a fish jump and then an eagle flies down. That is my mind. Full of ideas and connections.
Now this is interesting for me. Today I drove around town and looked for another house. Not too deleberately but exploring the geography so that I would have a good view of the mountains and be near a stream. So something is cooking.
My heart goes out to all these women on the move. It is a real phenomenon. I have moved dozens of times. I settle for long periods of time and then when there is trauma or a breakup of a relationship I become rootless and have a hard time putting down rotts again.  It is a wonder I can afford a house at all because I have been so un accountant like in my approach to real estate.
This time I don't know what is going to happen. I really like to hear about the whole home thing though. I really pray that you find a nest that you can flourish in.

That bathroom thing is on my mind Izzy. How about a Japanese screen around the bathroom. or .... put in a pocket slliding doo that slips into the wall. Not that you would want visitors but should you in future decide it may be a remote possiblility.  Alos, Hops advice to you is excellent. I was on the outs with my daughter and it got to be a habit for both of us. I started slowly with emails. Just sending her pictures or funny things and gradually got more personal. Now we are doing really well.

Thanks for all your replies. I read them before gioing to bed and felt connected with the world and at peace.
Lots of love,

Sea storm