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Test!!!!
« on: January 18, 2007, 09:59:40 PM »
Here is an awesome test for emotional abuse... see what your answers are to these questions:

What names, including nick names, were you called as a child?

Clumsy... could trip over the line in the middle of the road... only did schoolwork that was easy for me... got good grades in things that were easy... slut...bitch...



What words were used to describe you, your appearance, or your behavior?

If you eat like that you will weigh 150 pounds... Well, your butt must have come from your dad's side of the family... You may as well think about going to cosmetology school. You'll never make anything of yourself with those grades... Why in the world would you study Russian... Don't you miss the amenities of normal life (after travelling abroad)... Your ankles are big... Girls shouldn't try to get muscles at the gym like you do... Your sister has my body... Your legs look good... You have lost weight... Nothing said if I hadn't lost weight or been working out... I only gained 11 pounds when I was pregnant with you...


How did people talk to you?

I said change your shirt before you cook (yelled) Everything yelled. I didn't yell. My sister and mother loved to yell. My dad didn't either. Through pursed lips when disgusted or angry.


What stories were told about you? What do those stories say about you?

That I didn't know what spark plugs were (Isn't that ridiculous, how stupid.) That I was good in languages (they are easy for her). That I wasn't like those other "hick" kids where we lived.


How did you feel in your home?

I hated it more than anything in the world. I wanted to stay on vacation forever... anywhere we went. I was mortified and embarrassed. I still am. I dreaded spending time at home but wasn't allowed to go out at all. I felt like I was in a prison. I wanted to run away or die.

How were you treated?

They enjoyed "teasing" me when I was grumpy or tired. If I tried to clean, I was being disrespectful and "making my mother feel bad."I wasn't like them. I didn't like what they liked (and they were the experts on all things desirable).

How were others in your home treated?

My sister is so amusing. She is the light of the house. She is a medical expert. She had college paid for without complaints because "she was going to med school." They went to any performance she ever had. My mother told my dad when she was little that he needed to pay more attention to her. My mother was adamant that she would never have a hand-me down. But I had clothes she sewed me. I had to do everything "my way." I could never do what they wanted. My sister did everything the way they wanted.

What was said or communicated about your abilities to do things?

I am good at things that are easy for me.I am naturally talented and don't work at anything.


What was said or communicated about your role in the family?

I went against them. I could never do "normal" things. I went to an annoying college. Thank God they married me off. Why can't my family live near them now? I should be the executor to their estate, but since I am not around. my sister will replace me (trust me, I couldn't want anything less, but they find a perverse pleasure in this and in putting my sister's name on their account). I am spendtrhift while they like to spend money (not true, but how they see it). I hate them because all kids go through that.

What was said or communicated about your worth?

i would find a man (my mother was so devastated I gave up a wealthy and "connected" asshole I was dating even though he treated me like shit.) I couldn't be anything without a man. My field is weird and living abroad would be ridiculous.


What did you believe about yourself as a child?

That I was fat. I stile food from others' houses. I also took medecines from their cabinets. I thought if I drank I would be an adult and be happy. I thought sex was a great way to be adult-like too. I thought I was gross and nasty and fat. I thought I could develop magical powers. I thought something magic would happen and my life would end up being incredible. I thought everyone hated me. I thought everyone thought I was weird and ugly.


What do you believe about yourself now?

I am an adult. I am a great mom and I adore my husband. I know a little bit about everything. I am intelligent, and because of it will be able to continue learning my whole life. I also have a whole life to keep improving myself in other ways (spiritually, physically). I have been afforded so many amazing opportunities... education, travel, my family. I am a good person. I am a hard worker (most of the time :)) I believe I am getting to the point that I can control all the things in my life that I CAN control.


Wow, this was tough to fill in. I challenge you all!!!!!!
Love, Beth
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Re: Test!!!!
« Reply #1 on: January 18, 2007, 10:09:37 PM »
Jeez Beth,

Your family is a bunch of buttheads. Sure you're not adopted?

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Re: Test!!!!
« Reply #2 on: January 18, 2007, 10:22:25 PM »
I adore you Mr. Mud. did you give up any kids for adoption????
Kisses. How is Mrs. Mud??????
Love, Beth
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Re: Test!!!!
« Reply #3 on: January 18, 2007, 10:38:56 PM »
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did you give up any kids for adoption????

If you mean you, how old do you think I am? I look upon you more as a sister than a daughter. :P

Mrs. Mud is doing well. She has one more chemo treatment next week then onto estrogen blocking pills. Her tumor marker test is nearly back to normal and she is feeling good, except for the two or three days after chemo.

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Re: Test!!!!
« Reply #4 on: January 18, 2007, 10:49:10 PM »
what mud said. raised to the Nth :twisted: power.

mud, glad Mrs. is hanging in and holding fast. thank god for the tumor marker test results!
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Re: Test!!!!
« Reply #5 on: January 18, 2007, 10:50:42 PM »
Here is an awesome test for emotional abuse... see what your answers are to these questions:

What names, including nick names, were you called as a child?

Clumsy... could trip over the line in the middle of the road... only did schoolwork that was easy for me... got good grades in things that were easy... slut...bitch...


jealousy. ugly insecure jealousy!


What words were used to describe you, your appearance, or your behavior?

If you eat like that you will weigh 150 pounds... Well, your butt must have come from your dad's side of the family... You may as well think about going to cosmetology school. You'll never make anything of yourself with those grades... Why in the world would you study Russian... Don't you miss the amenities of normal life (after travelling abroad)... Your ankles are big... Girls shouldn't try to get muscles at the gym like you do... Your sister has my body... Your legs look good... You have lost weight... Nothing said if I hadn't lost weight or been working out... I only gained 11 pounds when I was pregnant with you...

making sure the brilliant you didn't catch on that the rest of you was whole, wonderful and fine as you were


How did people talk to you?

I said change your shirt before you cook (yelled) Everything yelled. I didn't yell. My sister and mother loved to yell. My dad didn't either. Through pursed lips when disgusted or angry.

they didn't talk to you, they talked at you


What stories were told about you? What do those stories say about you?

That I didn't know what spark plugs were (Isn't that ridiculous, how stupid.) That I was good in languages (they are easy for her). That I wasn't like those other "hick" kids where we lived.

that you were stupid (in ways they were clever) and that you were brilliant (in ways that were no threat) and that you were special (in ways they wished they were)


How did you feel in your home?

I hated it more than anything in the world. I wanted to stay on vacation forever... anywhere we went. I was mortified and embarrassed. I still am. I dreaded spending time at home but wasn't allowed to go out at all. I felt like I was in a prison. I wanted to run away or die.

you were real and alive and had sane emotions in response to bleak surroundings, stupidity and cruelty


How were you treated?

They enjoyed "teasing" me when I was grumpy or tired. If I tried to clean, I was being disrespectful and "making my mother feel bad."I wasn't like them. I didn't like what they liked (and they were the experts on all things desirable).

petty power is the recourse of the envious, and the bully

How were others in your home treated?

My sister is so amusing. She is the light of the house. She is a medical expert. She had college paid for without complaints because "she was going to med school." They went to any performance she ever had. My mother told my dad when she was little that he needed to pay more attention to her. My mother was adamant that she would never have a hand-me down. But I had clothes she sewed me. I had to do everything "my way." I could never do what they wanted. My sister did everything the way they wanted.

they taught you envy, and when you displayed a thread of it, they wove it into a garment for you

What was said or communicated about your abilities to do things?

I am good at things that are easy for me.I am naturally talented and don't work at anything.

more envy

What was said or communicated about your role in the family?

I went against them. I could never do "normal" things. I went to an annoying college. Thank God they married me off. Why can't my family live near them now? I should be the executor to their estate, but since I am not around. my sister will replace me (trust me, I couldn't want anything less, but they find a perverse pleasure in this and in putting my sister's name on their account). I am spendtrhift while they like to spend money (not true, but how they see it). I hate them because all kids go through that.

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jealousy of your intellect and your new life, fear they would lose their scapegoat, frustration you've escaped
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What was said or communicated about your worth?

i would find a man (my mother was so devastated I gave up a wealthy and "connected" asshole I was dating even though he treated me like shit.) I couldn't be anything without a man. My field is weird and living abroad would be ridiculous.

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jealousy of your independence and character and chutzpah
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What did you believe about yourself as a child?

That I was fat. I stile food from others' houses. I also took medecines from their cabinets. I thought if I drank I would be an adult and be happy. I thought sex was a great way to be adult-like too. I thought I was gross and nasty and fat. I thought I could develop magical powers. I thought something magic would happen and my life would end up being incredible. I thought everyone hated me. I thought everyone thought I was weird and ugly.

you were desperately hungry for love, but the aware part of you wanted to escape the jealousy

What do you believe about yourself now?

I am an adult. I am a great mom and I adore my husband. I know a little bit about everything. I am intelligent, and because of it will be able to continue learning my whole life. I also have a whole life to keep improving myself in other ways (spiritually, physically). I have been afforded so many amazing opportunities... education, travel, my family. I am a good person. I am a hard worker (most of the time :)) I believe I am getting to the point that I can control all the things in my life that I CAN control.

YOU ARE A VERY FINE PERSON AND YOU DIDN'T ALLOW CHILDHOOD TO CRUSH YOU

Wow, this was tough to fill in. I challenge you all!!!!!!
Love, Beth

What an amazing brave post, Beth.

love,
Hops
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Re: Test!!!!
« Reply #6 on: January 18, 2007, 10:51:30 PM »
Well, I am 23... Oh, OK, I guess I'm a bit older than that. See how my silly brain works... I kind of assumed you were older (you know what assuming does...).

That is wonderful news about Mrs. Mud! Gosh, she has been so stand-up through all the treatment. I will keep her in my prayers.

Love, Beth
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« Reply #7 on: January 18, 2007, 10:54:56 PM »
Hops, you are too kind to have gone through that and answered all my rantings :) Thank you...

I had meant for this to be a test other's could take too!!!!I am feeling a bit guilty that I got all this personal attention over it. You all always surprise me with your caring.

Love, Beth
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Re: Test!!!!
« Reply #8 on: January 18, 2007, 11:01:16 PM »
well that was sort of thick of me, Beth  :oops:

I do care though.

I am so glad for you and your hunky hubby.

love,
Hops

PS--and the kids...  :)
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« Reply #9 on: January 18, 2007, 11:50:20 PM »
I would do the test but I don't remember them talking to me except for :

"I'm going crazy" and "we found you in a ditch and brought you home" and "SHAME on YOU!" ...mom

"WHAT ON EARTH DID I DO TO DESERVE 5 LAZY LITTLE BASTARDS LIKE I GOT?"..dad

(I'll have to think for a few days)
Izzy

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« Reply #10 on: January 19, 2007, 12:14:51 AM »
(((((Izzy)))))))))))
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« Reply #11 on: January 19, 2007, 12:17:19 AM »
Hopsy,
I my lame manner, I was trying to thank you. Really, I am not used to people caring about the things I have to say. I so appreciate that you responded. I was embarrassed that the thread had turned into being all about me... But the input you gave me was just what I needed to hear and made me smile.
Love, Beth
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« Reply #12 on: January 19, 2007, 12:18:59 AM »
Izzy,

Q: What did you deserve to wind up with selfish incompetent would've-flunked-a-basic-babysitting-test parents like you got?

A: Nothing at all from the first time you drew breath to now.

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« Reply #13 on: January 19, 2007, 12:09:50 PM »
Beth...big smushy HUGS. Thanks and you're welcome.

CB, thank you to you too. You got rose-tinted glasses on for ol' Hoppy but it makes me feel good.

Hi Mud.

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Re: Test!!!!
« Reply #14 on: January 19, 2007, 06:53:12 PM »
Howdy, hops.

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