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[Hopalong]

Kelly hon,

1)  I like you and believe in you!!!!!!!

2)  YOU like you and believe in you!!!!! (fake it daily, becomes unfake)

Reverse order of #1 and #2 and you're cookin' with gas.

hugs,
Hops

[Overcomer]

Now just let me take case of your paperwork and you can just kick me in the butt for obsessing over all the job stuff.  Sometimes I think I need to stay but I still cannot help but want to run from this self absorbed woman.  She actually went and got checked for Alzheimers and the doc actually told her she is fine so I am even more screwed now that she thinks she is fine.  Good for another 20  years till she is 90 and I am 67!

[Lupita]

Dear Overcomer,

Have you recieved any phonecalls? Please, let us know.

Thanking of you and praying for you to find a job.

Lupita

[Overcomer]

Well Lup:  No have not heard a word from anyone.  My mom is not fighting me except for her concern for my 12 Year old.  I have just given it up.  Going crazy does me no good so it is just wait and see!  Thanks for asking and keep those prayers coming!

[Overcomer]

I went to Career builder and the last job I had applied for was gone.  I went looking for it and it looks like they made a mistake and the town is actually 100 Miles away from me.  so I am disappointed because this one excited me more than the one I have been pining away for.  I think when I was honest with the DM About how the store had really been run maybe he thought I was not really in charge and his opinion of me changed.  I mean we were texting and chatting a lot and now silence.

[Leah]

Hi Kelly,

You may have told him more than was required.

" Don't Cast Your Pearls "  !!

We all do it sometimes 

The right opportunity will present itself to you, and you will know, because you know!!

Leah xx

[Overcomer]

Yeah I think I might have.  But you see he and I figured out we are both Christians so I would not consider him a swine!  Anyway maybe he gathered some things that were not true.

[Overcomer]

THE SILENCE IS OVER.  TODAY I GOT A TEXT FROM THE FORMER DM AND HE TOLD ME THAT THEY OFFERED THE POSITION TO THE ASSISTANT MANAGER FROM THE KANSAS CITY STORE.....HE OR SHE IS GOING TO RELOCATE TO MY TOWN........

So it's over.  Four months...........and the new set of managers didn't even give me a chance to interview.  What the former DM thought would be a feather in my cap was actually a draw back.  He could have hired me.  Even the RVP said it was his choice.  But she must have told him she was REALLY not sold on me.

Anyway.  Knowing is better than not knowing.  And I truly feel it must not have been God's will for my life....that He protected me from something......not sure what.  But what a waste of my time and energy......don't you think?  Then I found out that the new job I applied for was actually for a store 100 miles away and I am not commuting THAT far.....

So back to the drawing board.  One thing I have decided is I want fashion.  Beauty.  I am not into like The Dollar Store or one of those discounter type stores - not what I want!!

[Stormchild]

Well, poo. After all the time they spent jerking you around... they were just jerking you around.

A pox on 'em, Kelly. And good for you, you sound like you've already put 'em in the rearview mirror, which is exactly where they belong.

[Overcomer]

I know, but you know?  I should have known.  If they wanted me, they would have hired me.  The fact that it went on and on and on, it was like they were trying to find someone better.  So many people told me to tell them to take a flying leap long ago but I was holding on to hope.  It is the same thing we do with men (at least I did...)  When I first met my husband I was so fearful of losing him that I allowed him to walk all over me......it was when I finally didn't care anymore that I told him to hit the road.  I cared about getting this job so I wouldn't say a bad thing about them while all of you were cautioning me - if they are like this before they hire you, how will they be AFTER???

So live and learn!!

[CB123]

Kelly,

I think you're on to something--the similarities between the job search dynamics and the romance dynamics in your life.  I think it's worth exploring.  It seems like you are at a pivotal point right now--you know how, all of a sudden, a bunch of puzzle pieces click in to place? It seems like you're there. 

What do you think makes you feel so desperate?  What makes you not want to see the negative?  (I have done this, too, and I dont know the answer to these questions.)

CB

[Overcomer]

cb I think I start to think that this is my ticket out and I think it through like some kind of fantasy.   It is not realistic but I refuse to see clearly when I am trying to run.  I have always done this.  I do not know how many times I have moved trying to recreate my life.  But my doc told me,  where ever you go You will be there.  So I think I had my hopes of escaping my mom all wrapped up in that job.  The hours were ok and the money was right so I thought it was my ticket out.

[Overcomer]

And  then I in to work and a lot of the old timer employees were complaining about my aunt.  She has been there well over a year and is still clueless.  It is infuriating working with the sisters with no clue who think they are all that.

[Overcomer]

Then my mom and I went to visit with a potential investor in our store.  He thinks my mom and I can work together.  I just sat there and shook my head.  It all sounds good in theory but I cannot see her not keeping her nose in the middle of everything.  I do feel like I need to stay because the store needs me.

[oc]

And when my mom excused herself to go to the bathroom I said to the man that she likes the spotlight and he told me her could see that in her.