CRAZY

[mountainspring]

Hi OC,

I worked for a company in Human Resources once and sometimes when openings came up they would place an ad because they were required too, but they knew who they were going to hire before placing the ad.  Keep on keeping on, the right job will come through for you eventually.

[pennyplant]

I agree on that one.  Most of the time, those in charge of openings and hiring have someone they already know in mind for the job.  Even in areas that ought to be neutral and are test based, such as civil service, the experienced "hirers" know how to work it so that a friend or someone they previously worked with will be able to get the job.

A few years back I interviewed twice for my ideal job.  In fact, I had it and she called me and left a message on my machine that sounded like it was a done deal except for paperwork.  Then I never heard back.  I was able to find out who got the job and realized it was someone with a connection.  What I didn't understand was why I had been "led on" with that message.  A couple years later I ran into the person who had tried to hire me.  She had felt terrible about it.  She didn't explain the details but I realized she had been overruled at the last minute.  Nobody had told HER that the job was to be set aside for someone else.  They had her go through all the motions of interviewing several people and picking the person she wanted and basically just wasted everybody's time.  All these years later, I see this kind of thing all around me.  I think it also explains why so many incompetent people have really good and/or powerful jobs.

Maybe somehow you can make your own job one of these days, Kell.  Maybe go to college again or something?  Of course, I'm that last person to be giving any job-related advice at all.  But I have made a lot of mistakes along those lines!  I know what not to do!!!

Pennyplant

[Overcomer]

Funny, I was born on John Lennon's birthday..

Yes, the job I was pining for was a series of crazy events.  It is true.  The last time they posted it, the new DM had already decided to hire an Assistant from KC.........so the ad was for not.

Oh well, I really love my job.  I just don't love working with my mom.  I have to remember that she really is getting old and it is only a matter of time before something happens which will force her out.....but meanwhile my sanity is at stake!

[pennyplant]

I think it is harder to wait when there really is no expiration date.  Then it seems like it might be forever.  And that is just unbearable.  No way to pace yourself.  It is true that eventually she will be gone.  But what will it take?  The wondering is maddening.  Not knowing what to expect makes it worse.

I also had a job I loved but the boss was N.  I stuck it out for five years with her because I loved that job.  But she was too much for me to take anymore and I walked out.  When I started looking for work, people would ask me what I wanted to do and I would say, I wanted the job I had.  It was a one of a kind job for around here and it still hurts a great deal that I had to walk out.  I feel that the N ruined something really great for me.

Pennyplant

PS  Oh yeah, and I was born on Paul McCartney's birthday!!