Daughter says she needed a therapist at age 12

[teartracks]

Iz,

I'm reading along, following your story with your daughter.  I look forward to hearing her response.  In the meantime try not to fret.  I wouldn't have had the nerve to do it, but probably would have considered paying someone to put me out of my misery when I was an adolescent.  During that period, it wasn't about family dysfunction perse.  I was one of those tall willowy girls who just didn't get a period until I was past 14.  I felt like I was in some strange netherworld, different from all the other girls.  Then I got a period and about bled to death before anything was done about it.  I was terribly anemic.  After a DnC, it all straightened out, but the DNC almost didn't happen because my daddy feared I could never pass as a virgin when it was over.  I guess the doctor talked some sense into him, for it was done and I turned into a young woman soon after.  I felt pretty wierd though working through me, the odd bird that I was.   I always loved the farm and wanted to stay there, but lo and behold they sold the farm without talking to us kids and off we went to a large town.  This was the last six weeks of my senior year.  I about had a nervous breakdown going to that new  school. My wracked behavior  got my parents attention so they sent me back to live with my grandmother (next door to the farm) allowing me to  graduate from my old school.   I was in college at sixteen.  Seems so long ago.
It was a long time ago.

Anyway, adolescents think and do whacky stuff.  Much of the time, I don't think they know why they act out.

But don't let me steer you wrongly.  I think it's safe to approach the aspirin thing seriously and work through it. 

I'm wishing you the very best.  THE BEST!

TT

[isittoolate]

Thank you Ami and TT,

I too had a miserable life including my teens, and had my period finally at 16--- a long tall stringbean of a girl.

My daughter was 10-11 and I helped her through that (she knew in advance) and we had other talks when I deemed them necessary-- her father, his suicide, sex etc., about making choices,  weighing pros and cons to a choice, all the stuff, yet that didn't make me the 'good mother' I thought I was being. I missed things, but I did do better than mother. (I say that because my mom would never have gone to therapy to try to find out what she did wrong and right.)

I was too naive from my own upbringing. Daughter knows that, but it's no excuse.

Yes I will take it seriously when she finally writes me back. I will take the messaging in order and not push a mess of emails on her until she had dealt with what she has.

Loce
Izzy