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A Story and a Few Words of Encouragement

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rosencrantz:
:shock:

I can't believe I said that!
R

longtimelurker:
After all the efforts you have made to show how "considerate" you are, Rosencratz, it is interesting that you are not above being personally insulting.

Calling someone stupid. - is that the forum equivalent of verbal abuse? Demeaning and belittling them too:-


--- Quote --- (Good grief - you've come back every hour to post - have you been missing me? Are you trying to taunt me into giving you something else to vent about??? )
--- End quote ---


the last sentence of your quote above looks a little like projection to me.

Sarcasm too. Or will you deny that?

Very appropriate for a forum on voicelessness.

You are certainly being hoisted by your own petard in this case.


And now I'm being insulting :?

Round and round the garden we go. Who will apply for the job of teddy bear?

surf14:
Rosencrantz;
 
   Sorry but  I disagree with most of what you wrote here and  I don't connect all all with your perception that I had tried to smother you and put a blanket over you during pasts posts; I had felt I was very supportive.  Its interesting to note how people can so cleanly miss in their communications and perceptions.

I still feel strongly that a time-out when things become too intense  is a necessesity and that the 'safety ' of the board needs to be protected when things get out of  hand.  

Surf

rosencrantz:
Hi longtime lurker.  Thanks for this.

Actually, I'm feeling quite cheerful.

Nobody said I had to be 'good' all the time.  Lots of other people aren't being very adult.  Why is it always OK for other people to attack and hurt me but never OK for me to defend myself???  I always had to be the adult for my mother - understanding, controlled - because she was always out of control.  I was never the child.  I'd be so much happier if I could be childish occasionally.  Not venomous like some are being but just fun and childlike.

I think I already acknowledged I had been less than my usual reserved self in my last post ("I can't believe I said that")

Thank you for noticing that I try to be considerate.  I wasn't aware that that's what I do.  Actually, it's not my motivation at all.  'Considerate'.  Hmm - no it's not my motivation.  But it sounds a nice thing to be. I'm glad it comes across that way.  Someone else said I was honest and compassionate.  Several other people whose opinions I trust have said the same thing so I guess they are accurate.  I'd say I was desperate for the truth and desperate for people to feel good about themselves but that the two were often in conflict and as a result I feel terrible most of the time.  

No, I don't think that last quote is projection.  I haven't posted three times in a row to the same person making personal and mean comments.

I don't mind you being insulting.  Thank you for putting words to what you are attempting to do. It saves me feeling confused.

I'm not quite sure what petard you think I've been hoisted on.  I think you might be revealing something you think about me rather than something I think about myself.

But thanks for the bait.  I enjoyed replying. :D

TTFN
R

surf14:
P.S. Rosencrantz;

Once again in regards to your perception that I wanted to quiet your voice; actually your words were the ones on the board I turned to the most as I found some assist  and help from you in how to deal with my impossible mother.  Seemed like you understood the best.  And I appreciated that.  Whatever your perceptions are I wanted to commuicate that.  Have a good one and take it easy on yourself and others, OK?

Surf

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