Hi Rosencrantz and Wildflower and Portia,
Thankyou so much for your warm and caring responses. Oh My Gosh.

I feel so fortunate to have come across you.
I've got a confession to make. I'm lousy at recognising when I'm repeating mistakes. Lousy! Lousy! I haven't just got blind spots. I'm totally emotionally visually impaired when it comes to myself.
I can see it in others. Or if it's about other people, and can see when other people are making the same mistakes over and over. Doesn't that make me the clever one?
That's why I'm such a useless little shit in group therapy. I'm not useless regarding everyone else's progress, just regarding my own!
Maybe I will blow up and burst one day!

Yeah, it would be very messy, wouldn't it. And what a wonderful mother I'd have been, leaving a huge mess for my kids to have to deal with, or for them to have to clean it up for me.

I'd hate myself forever. So I'd better attend to it hey?
And I think I do seep!

(Emoticon for YYUUKK!!!)
You know I'm lousy when the camera zooms in on me. I'm fine, very comfortable off in the corner telling one of my stories on my terms, or unconsciously being colourful jester, entertaining naturally and making a few people laugh. But put the spotlight on me so everyone's watching and can hear and I'm outta there.
Duh!!

I think it's some form of avoidance. Or maybe it's a control thing. I feel so exposed when I become the focus of someone else's attention.
Maybe that's why I married a Narcissist. Now there's a thought.!!!
(Memo to self - File that thought for further analysis.)
Like now, with both of you directing your attention to me. Any zeroing in on me gets me squirming, BIG TIME. I'd have usually exited by now, cause I'm feeling under the spotlight and not the one in control and I get very uncomfortable.
So I'm resisitng that urge to hide. Why? First, because I wouldn't want either of you to think that you'd offended me. You haven't. And second, I think because I've come to trust you both over the past couple of weeks.

There's a turn up for the books. Add also because I'm smart enough to know this is important to me, and really why I came here, to sort out some of this crap.
I know you are both (R & W) saying some really valuable stuff in your posts. On one level I feel pricked and prodded and there's a conviction in me to look deeper. And it's like I'm a total retard in this area, or I'm really hard of hearing or maybe even stone-deaf emotionally. Anyway, I'm getting some time on my own this weekend. I intend to re-read Rosencrantz's and Wildflower's posts and if you feel inclined to add anymore stuff that you think may assist please feel free. And please don't apologise for speaking your mind here and sharing your thoughts, I'm soooo open to you and pleased that you have, and pleased that I haven't run away.
I cheer you on, appreciate you greatly and shout, "Sock it to me me baby."
Thanks
CG
PS, You're right Wildflower, I've never watched that movie. I'd drop dead with a mouth full off popcorn in the first scary scene. Meanwhile, everyone else in the theatre would be screaming and jumping with fright and observing how rigid, still and unmoved I was. They'd probably even be thinking how totally cool I was, that I wasn't affected by the horror at all.
