Interesting piece of learning

[axa]

I wrote a post some time ago about a woman who irrated me greatly when I met her even though I did not know her.  Having spent some time exploring what the issue was I realised that she reflected my own passivity which I had buried deeply in my shadow.  Having let the light shine on my passivity I threw XN out....... great lesson.

I met this woman for the first time last saturday and it was so weird.  I thought she was quite a pleasant person, not necessarily someone I would want to be great friends with but she was fine.  I had no irritation around her and engaged in an interesting chat with her.

very, very interesting piece of learning

axa

[lighter]

That is interesting, isn't it? 

[Ami]

Dear Axa,
  Your story shows how much we filter experience through our own perceptions and needs. . I think that the most common would be that someone exhibits a quality that you don't like in yourself.
  I remember reading about a little "quiz " ',You ask someone what is the worst quality that they dislike in others. They will usually tell you about what they dislike in themselves.
  I think that your incident is a variation on this.
  I assume when the person heals the quality in themselves that it will not bother them on other's.
 The other way that this works is if someone is complaining about another person. One friend of mine used to complain that another was a social climber. This really surprised me ,as I had not seen it like this at all. Then, when I read about this, I could see that the one complaining was really in to "social' maneuvering etc. So, I learned a good lesson.
  Axa.you sound like you are really finding a "center." I am so happy for you                 Love   Ami





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[axa]

Thanks Ami,

Still struggling, not sure about finding my centre as yet but slogging away at it.  It can be such a roller coaster at times, I just get plain exhausted but know there is no going back.  I still struggle with trusting myself and my instinct that is a really hard piece of work for me.

Axa

[Hopalong]

Axa,
I think you're doing remarkable, dazzling inner work.
I have such respect for that level of thinking.

Maybe it's hard not to think that your entire life ahead will require this intensity of struggle and self-scrutiny.

I'm starting to believe it won't. Reflection, yes. Maybe the peace of the old is about being at peace with who they are.
But that's the difference between painting a house vs. redrawing the plans every few years.

hugs
Hops